I just recently found this website and I am hoping it helps me keep my sanity. I am a SM to 4 children. They have nothing to do with their BM since she let her husband abuse them. They have lived with me for 4 years and my husband feels that we should have a bond like I do with my BD's. The other day my SS told me I was ruining his life. He always pulls these fits where he feels sorry for himself and his life is so bad. That the girls in the house are all spoiled and he never gets anything.