DH met with SD's counsellor, SD texted to say she never wants to see him again
SD10 saw the counsellor for the first time last week. My husband met with her yesterday. She suggested at least one more supervised visit with GBM, to which my husband essentially said "HELL NO". He explained what she did last time (hovered over us the whole time) and gave a bit of history (she used to interview SD after her weekends with us to get her to say bad things, she used to email DH to tell him he was a horrible father and to criticize the amount of CS he was paying - $1,200/month at the time). The counsellor then agreed that GBM is not an appropriate supervisor.
My husband asked if either my mom or my sister could be the supervisor. They both live in the same town as BM and SD. SD knows them well - she calls them "grandma" and "auntie" and likes spending time with them. The counsellor said that she will ask SD this week if she is comfortable with one of them doing the supervised visit with us. I was a little surprised by that - I thought it's giving a child a lot of control over the situation. If SD says no, then the counsellor said she will make an appointment for both my husband and SD to see her at the same time. Apparently SD told her that she is still "scared" of my husband.
The counsellor wants to see me at some point, as well as BM's husband. She told my husband that she thinks we're on track for SD to come for an entire weekend again in about a month, when my in-laws are coming for a visit. SD hasn't seen them in nearly a year so my husband insisted that she needs to be there.
After the supervised visit with GBM last weekend, my husband texted SD to say that he was glad to see her. A couple of days later, she texted him back to say that she doesn't want to see him anymore. Of course we don't know if BM actually sent the text or had some influence on it, but it was still pretty devastating for my husband to get it.
I'm still just amazed that this whole thing is happening. The good news is that court is done with for now. As long as BM cooperates with what the counsellor suggests, DH shouldn't have to go back, although I'm not holding my breath on that one. I really hope the counsellor discovers what's really going on here. I'll have a hard time not expressing my opinion on the topic when/if I meet with the counsellor myself.
At the same time, part of me doesn't want SD to come back anymore anyway. This whole thing has been very stressful and I still don't know how the situation got misconstrued so badly - I can't help but think SD really did play a part in it. I think it's too far gone and if she doesn't stop coming now, she'll stop coming in a couple of years anyway. This will not be the end of drama from BM.