Don’t Know What to Title This - Long
My Aunt died last week. She was a wonderful lady – the type of person that draws you in with her humor and wit. She was a stay at home mom, raised 6 children and was married to my uncle for over 50 years.
The funeral was Saturday. It was our weekend with SSons. Both SSons had scout activities planned for Sat. DH e-mailed BM to let her know that the boys wouldn’t be attending scouts as there was a death in the family.
This is where everything got chaotic…
A little background:
1. My Aunt was actually my cousin. As I spent a lot of time with her growing up I always called her Auntie out of respect, and her children call my parents Auntie and Uncle was well.
2. BM’s mom and my mom went to high school together and meet every week for lunch.
BM calls DH and tells him that SSon’s activities should come first and that they should not go to the funeral. BM also calls DH a liar and tells him that my Aunt is not my Aunt and is only a cousin. BM then tells DH that he should ask BettyRay’s mom to watch the boys if we want to attend the funeral.
DH responds to BM by telling her that he doesn’t care if BettyRay's Aunt is my Aunt or not. He knows my “Aunt” well and wants to go and pay his respects to my “Uncle.” DH then tells BM that BettyRay’s mom will be attending the funeral as well, so the boys will be coming with us. BM then tells DH that she just talked to her mom and her mom said BettyRay’s mom wasn’t going.
DH says that BM’s mom is mistaken; BettyRay’s mom is going to the funeral.
BM then flies off the handle and tells DH to find a sitter because SSons are too young to attend a funeral (11 y.o. and 7 y.o.). Oh and by the way BM asks for our tax return because she feels DH is not paying enough CS.
DH ends up confronting BM’s mom. BM’s mom never told BM that BettyRay’s mom wasn’t going to the funeral.
I call my mom asking her what was said to BM’s mom. My mom had no idea any of this was going on, and I felt stupid asking her. She just told BM’s mom that my Aunt’s health was failing.
DH and I figure out that BM is lying – but we assumed as much any way.
BM’s mom agrees to watch SSons and takes them to their scout stuff.
DH, my mom and I go to the funeral.
DH called the lawyer this morning. The tax return is being sent to BM, with my info blacked out. It appears DH should be paying $2 A MONTH more – that’s right – TWO DOLLARS A MONTH MORE IN CS. All of BM’s wrath for $2. Whatever…
I’m just sad. I miss my Aunt. All the drama surrounding the funeral was just exhausting. I haven’t been able to grieve because I’ve been too busy taking care of the BM drama with DH.
Thanks for letting me get this out.