ChaiLatte blogged about this a few days ago and I wanted to add my 2 cents regarding EOW custody. I’ve been doing EOW with DH for 5-years. We started out with 4-nights a month and EO-Thurs. night. Then it went to 8-nights a month and EO-Thurs. night. Now we’re at 10-nights a month and EO-Thurs. night. These changes were due to BM changing jobs. Currently, when we have the boys she’s working.
SSons behavior with us has improved with our increase in overnights. We have house rules (always have) and DH backs me up. Conversely, SSons behavior with BM has gotten worse - to the point where SS12 is in counseling for it. And SS8 is modeling SS12’s bad behavior at BM’s house.
I’m actually longing for FC. I think with more time we could make a difference in SSons lives. When we were at 4-nights a month it was like we were in a holding pattern. SSons knew “it was only for the weekend” so they didn’t care what they did here or who they hurt. We really weren’t a family – it was just DH, and the boys. Now we are a family, SSons actually care about what happens here. SSons listen to me and DH.
Just my perspective.