My BF and I have lived together for four years, we are both content with not being married. I have a fear that if we are married that somehow his ex will find someway to use that against him, a little paranoid I know. There is SS who is 11 and SD who is 12, probably 50% of the time we get along pretty well and the other 50% of the time I am gritting my teeth trying to "fake it till I make it". The BM is a very crazy angry person, a bad combonation! BM is very manipulative with everyone in her life including the children. Constantly bad mouthing BF and myself and anything to do with us.