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Submitted by AtMyWitsEndNY on Mon, 05/06/2013 - 10:47am

It's been a while since my last blog... Between then and now, a lot has happened. Basically, it took several more weeks of neglect, lack of financial support, and a ton of verbal and emotional abuse and broken personal property of mine to get up enough nerve to break things off with him... I've been taking a hard looking over my last 4 years with my boyfriend, and how our two sons have been overlooked and neglected. How I have been overlooked and neglected. And, how all of my boyfriend's time, love, energy and money go toward his daugthers from his former marriage.

The Silence Breaks!

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Submitted by AtMyWitsEndNY on Thu, 01/17/2013 - 7:28am

My boyfriend finally contacted me last night and said: "Going forward, what will YOU do different?"

I told him that on weekends he has his daugthers I will be more present and interested in "family time". I also told him that I'll be more cautious in the way I "handle" issues that arise and not attack him (since he's the type of individual that needs to be handled with kid gloves at all times."

His response: "Good. When you show and prove then we can have a relationship. I'm not going to see you until I have my daugthers again and we all hangout."

Here We Go Again...

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Submitted by AtMyWitsEndNY on Mon, 01/14/2013 - 9:51am

Well, this weekend did NOT turn out good at all. As usual, as with each and every weekend my boyfriend has his daugthers, there's an issue. Or many issues.

I blogged in the wee hours of Saturday AM about my boyfriend's guilty money spending (in addition to child support) on his daughters and how he rarely provides any financial support for our two sons and myself.

Guilty Spending/Spoiling

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Submitted by AtMyWitsEndNY on Sat, 01/12/2013 - 3:02am

Among numerous other issues I'm battling in my relationship, one in particular that really enraged me is how my boyfriend insists in buying his daughters (ages 5 and 7) new wardrobes every other weekend. For Christmas he bought the 7 year old and iPod and the 5 year old a flat screen TV for her room at her Mother's house, along with more clothes. It really enrages me that he gives his ex wife $720 a month, plus buying the kids new clothing constantly. Tonight he spent $101.25 on them at Kohl's. Prior to this trip he spent $200+ on Christmas dresses, coats, shoes and accessories...

...Just Hear Me Out...

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Submitted by AtMyWitsEndNY on Fri, 01/11/2013 - 1:46pm

I'm dying for feedback/advice...

My story in a nutshell is: I'm 28, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have two sons together (16 months and 2 months old). He is divorced and has two daugthers (5 and 7 years old). In April of last year I made the decision to move out of our apartment that we had together for the following reasons: