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Free Hugs

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This is not step-related, but just thought y'all needed a little pick-me-up. Maybe I'm behind the times on this one, but I just saw the video on youtube & it rocks. Just when you think the world is going to shit, and nobody cares about nothing, and blah blah blahblibity blah blah...well, this video brightened my day!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4

Enjoy!

This is long....

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This is long, and for that I apologize. I just have so much to angst and no where to vent.
First, I have to ask all the step-moms out there and girlfriends who are in the step-mom role: has something so awful happened with your SK(s) and your BF/DH reaction to it (or, in my case, lack thereof) that you are so incredulous and ashamed you didn't do anything about it and that you don't tell a single soul? Besides venting here? That is the situation I am in.

What to do?

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I do not want to parent my BF's children. They have parents already, and I am not one of them. Specifically, I do not want to discipline them, their actions, or their behavior. I know this would open an entirely ugly and messy can of worms. It's a battle I don't care to fight.

How BF's kids act when he has them has nothing to do with me. Some of their behavior I find offensive, immature and rude, but hey...they're kids. More importantly...they're not my kids!

How to React?

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My boyfriend just found out that his request for 50/50 custody was denied (no reason given by the court, just a recommendation that visatation continue as is - as in every other weekend, and one day during the week).

He is heart-broken and I feel badly for him and am trying to be supportive.

I know this is a touchy subject...

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I love to read everyone's posts, rants, and raves. But is it just me, or do some of the SM's seem alittle insecure? It's as if they want their DHs to completely cut ties with the EX, other than anything to do w/ their chidlren. Whoa, I know there are plenty of crazy Ex's who can't or won't let go, and who hate the new wife and only want to make their lives miserable...

Some Christmas

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Here I am on Christmas morning, sitting here alone at the computer. I was hoping and expecting something different...maybe next year will be better.
This is my BF's first Christmas away from his girls. He had them this weekend, and they did their Christmas with him last night. He also plans on going over to the Ex's sometime today and give the girls one last gift from him that they get to open on Christmas morning.

Bio Son

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I hope someone else has had this problem and can help me in dealing w/ it. My boyfriend has 2 daughters (ages 7 and 10) that he adores and is a great father to. My own son's father is basically a derelict who doesn't pay his child support, has spent time in jail, and has the maturity level of a 16 year old. The only contact he has with his son is sporatic visitation, which is always prompted by my son saying he misses his dad and wants to see him (never his dad calling & asking for him).

Give me Some Advice

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New here to this board, but have been reading all the posts and forums for the past few months. I am a mother to a 10 year old son as well as the girlfriend to a DH who has a psycho ex-wife. Many of the posts I have read have to do with failed expectations, and a lot of assumptions. As one who plans on marrying my DH one day, what advice can everyone give me concerning dealing with the ex-wife, their 3 children, discipline issues, how to interact with his ex and how he interacts with her, etc? I know its a broad subject, but any and all advice is appreciated.
Thanks!