I'm having a very hard time getting my head round the fact that my husband prefers to do housework himself than involve his only daughter. She has three brothers but he would rather wash used pots and pans, or carry out the trash and leave the kids to watch tv or stay in their rooms on their computers. I come from a background where everyone gets their hands dirty doing chores. I'm not here to change things overnight but I don't think I have to do ALL the work around the house, including cleaning up their mess, when I have four grown kids in the house.