It drives me crazy...I just gotta say.
My DH and I had to take my BD to the city for a concert, so while waiting for her and her friend we needed something to do. We got tickets to a different show at the other end of the city to pass the time. SD15 calls the night before and says that she needs to come to our house because BM is going to the city the next day and she will not have a ride to work. Then SD15 tells DH that BM and her BF have tickets for the same damned show that we do! To make matters worse - they ended up in the row behind us at the theatre!

I am the parent of 2 BC and 1 SD. H and I have been together for 5 years and all along his BD has had some real problams. She was raised 50% of the time by her BM who is a crack addict. She did crack while pregnant with this child and this child has been a major issue in our blended family home. She lies, steals, cheats, and hurts myself and my kids, breaks and throws away our things and numerous other little things like using my tooth brush to swipe the toilet.

I had told SD that she could go for a walk, supposedly she was going to go find a place to sit and draw (I'm not really buying it, but whatever), and I told her that if she decided to go hang out with her BF or anything else she needed to call me and let me know. She had been gone for about an hour and a half when the phone rang. I couldn't get to the phone because I was taking care of something for my 5 year old, but I looked to see who had called when I got done and saw it was SD, so I called her back (this was in less than 5 minutes). She didn't answer.

Why do I have to go to every single little thing that involves SD? She has a mother.She has a father.WHY do i have to show up and pretend to be happy i'm there? She never invites me and completely ignores the fact that I'm there so what's the point? Why can't i used that time for something more useful?

So I have had my SD10 all summer (well Sunday night through Friday afternoon) and I can't get her to do anything! She has put on a significant amount of weight in the last year so I thought that when I took her for the summer I would sign her up for Karate and or Swimming lessons. I tried to do the Karate thing with her for a month but I fought her tooth and nail to get her there so I just gave up...especially because I wasn't getting any support from DH.

For anyone still around who knows my story, I was asked for an update, so I am posting one.....

The children are well. We discovered, however, that the baby (now 3mos) has healing fractures in his knees! When I found this out, I excused myself from the room and pukedin the garbage can outside the room. I was so mad, I gave myself a migraine thinking about it. What kind of person does this to a baby?????? I know, she's mentally ill, she can't help it. Maybe, but SD knew better than to leave the babies with BM. We kept telling her not to. She did it anyway, so we have them.

Well, DH and I got into a huge fight Sunday evening about the first day of school get together with him, his kids and his ex.

i feel like i cant put up with being a stepparent and ive barely started! i dont lyke the fact of having a child that's not mine coming over so i have to always be nice and go out of my way, She's not my daughter she's my H and BM daughter...i feel lyke ill always be the other woman, my SD is only 3yo and ive only met her once and right after that my H had a DNA test done cuz he never had one done for her and she come out his!

On numerous occasions dh and I have had to take the kids to a bio family event because bm didnt mention it was happening or switched weekends with us so the kids could attend. Her excuse is, if an event falls ob your weekend you take them it it falls on mine i take them. However, its her "family" that is having the event. Like sn anniversary, a birthday party, etc. This has happened about 7x in the past 10 months! Its redicilous I think and dh agrees! First, she is not suppose to interfere with his visitations and second she doesn't even attend the events herself!!

While H went to pick up SD for her weeklong visit I went to my parents to kill some time. The plan was to stay there until H had to leave for work at which point SD would be in bed and H would be out the door so I'd have a mostly relaxed night before the week really got rolling. I was at my parent's for about a half hour when I got a call from H telling me he had gotten into an accident right after he had picked up SD. Thankfully no one was hurt but the car wasn't drivable so I had to go pick them up.