I know we've talked about it thousands of times here but I'll say it again. PAS should be a crime. It is child abuse. Any child abuser/PASinator deserves to do a stint in prison and lose custody permanently. Maybe if PASinators knew that they would face hefty jail time and losing custody, they wouldn't practice PAS.

I think PAS needs to be discussed at our national and state Capitols. I think someone from our site should run for state or national office and get PAS on the radar screen, and introduce a bill making it a crime.

but yesterday showed signs of patterns repeating themselves. SD15's bf just moved back to the states. We went out of our way to make sure she got to spend time with him every day the week before he left. We talked to her about how they could still IM and email and skype...even told her she could call him once a week for 30 minutes. I think that is very generous of us...especially since, IMO, teenagers have no business trying to have long distance relationships.

This weekend went really well. Sd actually graced us with her presence. I was quite shocked. We've seen her once in 4 months. I think BF got thru to her last weekend when she made comments that it's her life and she should be able to decide what to do with it. He told her yes, it's your life, but I decide what you get to do until your 18. I'll take your opinion into consideration but my decision is the final word.. Whoo hoo glad BF finally stood up to his 13 year old.. about damn time!!! My parents took the 4 of us to the Sox game today and we had a blast.

When I first met my fionce he was still on good terms with the BM (aside from her resenting him for not taking her back and choosing me)But once he moved out of her parents house and into the house he bought to live with me, he has hated her and they are not on speaking terms. He has led me to believe that her hate for me wasn't as simple as her just being the ex but more like her being the psycho ex. Any time I have said anything positive about her (which wasn't often) he would flip out and state that she will never change, that shes going to come after him someday.

Hi all, I seriously don’t even know where to start. I’m feeling so confused, angry, depressed and just basically feel like crying all the time.

To cut an extremely long story short, this is my background.

I have been with my BF for 5 years. We are engaged and the only reason why we haven’t tied the knot yet is financially we can’t afford it for what we want (I’m not saying we want a grand wedding with 1000 people but something nice, small and elegant) I am an SM to 3 SS. We have the eldest SS14 living with us and the 2 younger ones live with BM.

I have never considered my Skid as anything but my son. Would this work for both resident and non resident Skids?

If a Skid does not behave in accordance with the house rules the kid stays in their room the whole visitation and everyone else goes about their usual business.

Eventually the kid will catch a clue and get on board.

Just wondering if anyone out there has actually ever CONFRONTED a BM about anything the BM has done that is just plain WRONG and what the outcome was? Did things get any better? Much worse? I'm talking about not only the usual "annoyances", but also about major subjects, such as long-term alienation of the kids against their father, etc... Topics include:

FDH needs to go to the hospital, he has been complaining about arm pain for the past two months. Obviously, it keeps getting worse, but he won't do anything about it. Finally tonight, he walks in from work (literally 10 minutes ago) and says I need to go to the hospital, I've been really good about holding in this pain. I say, let's go. He says, no we need to wait until I don't have to work!!! really honey, really you need to wait...you need to wait until what your shitty ass job gives you permission to go to the hospital....come on!!! really?!?!?!?

BM tends to think she doesn't have enough alone time, however in a nuclear family do mothers get time off/vacation from their family. NO, not that I recall. BM impression is that fdh and I get alot of time off, and we club it every other weekend. Not the case at all...read on...

So this weekend ended up being really fantastic! i think we are slowly getting there! On friday night SS 7 was sick so we just had a ngiht in watching movies. All up on the couch and SD- 7 wasnt trying to get all the attention and SS - 10 was being so chatty and explaining some new games he got and how to play.