Well I sat down and talked to DH this week and he agreed to a schedule so that I can be disengaged and both me and SD get enough of his time alone to be happy. He also began to understand why I need to be disengaged at this point. We had a very nice long talk without arguing (for one of the first times since we got SD full time in March) and I ended feeling very accomplished and with some hope. We start the new schedule on Monday. Wish me luck

I have been with my partner for 5 years. His wife had died 12 months before I even met him. He swept me off my feet for the first 6 months then asked me to on a romantic holiday with him to Rome. I thought it was all too good to be true and yes you guesed it - it was all too good to be true.
We had previously moved into a new place, a new fresh start for him after losing his wife of 30 yrs+ there was nothing in this house except some furniture and a few basic necessities. We were going to go on our first holiday to Rome then come back and start to do the house up.

SGKs birthday party is tomorrow. I know most of you advised me against it. I am going to be TOO NICE. I went out and bought a nice cake, ice cream, ham and potato salad for dinner, a Princess chair and table set for the grandtwins, balloons, etc. DH had already bought presents so I didn't worry with that.

I am now enjoying a couple of beers whilst blowing up balloons. I am going to be the NICEST person in the world until my divorce papers are filed.

I advised my sis as to what's going on. Sis (age 57) and my mom (age 84) are coming over tomorrow. Sis knows the story.

Bless his heart, last night my BIL invited me to have lunch today with him, my MIL and ...SS. I love BIL & MIL, it's the ungracious SS I could do with out.. and have.. he hasn't stopped by to see his dad or me in over a month. (Ever since we told him he is not moving in here and had better not quit his job.) I Know BIL knows about the sitch because he and DH are very close. I also think that BIL is trying to be a peacekeeper. DH is out of town. Anyway, I accept and thank him for being so thoughtful, looking forward... see you tomorrow.

I do. Ok maybe not every single day, but every day on our weeks. (we have 50/50 week on/week off) BM is always there after school because she has another child that goes there, and of course she waits for SD to get out so she can see her. I totally understand that, I'd want to take every moment I could to see my child, but I just don't know how to deal with seeing her EVERYDAY! When we got along it was fine, we could stand there and chat, but right now I can't stand her and it drives me crazy having to play nice! I'm somewhat mad at DH because I have to see her everyday and he doesn't!

It's so terrible to wait and wait to see what's going to happen next with the BM. I feel like I'm sick of this roller coster ride. Why is it this lady has so much control just because she had his kids. I'm having his kid and I feel thrown to the side. I feel like we work around her and their kids and our whole life is on hold until their weekend or phone call. It's going to be like this forever and to tell the truth if I was smart and knew better I would have ran the other way! I don't know that it's worth it. Maybe I could've found a man that's just as perfect minus the DRAMA.

It's so terrible to wait and wait to see what's going to happen next with the BM. I feel like I'm sick of this roller coster ride. Why is it this lady has so much control just because she had his kids. I'm having his kid and I feel thrown to the side. I feel like we work around her and their kids and our whole life is on hold until their weekend or phone call. It's going to be like this forever and to tell the truth if I was smart and knew better I would have ran the other way! I don't know that it's worth it. Maybe I could've found a man that's just as perfect minus the DRAMA.

Just an update, I got a text from H asking to see the baby after 2 months and a half of him being totally absent, because according to him "he is leaving the state", but I found out through my SIL that the reason is becuase I filed for CS everybody in his family advised him that he should be able to see the baby because he is going to have to pay for him (I never said that he couldn't see him btw) ...Jawdropping!

I asked about this awhile back but it's still unresolved and quite frankly, FDH and I are sick of having her phone up, play the victim and expect him to rescue her.

So, what if you win the lottery, how would you keep BM from dragging you and DH through the mud and taking everything you won?

Either DH and I would divorce and I would claim the winnings, or we would give my mom the ticket and let her claim the winnings. At least that way we could distribute it as we see fit!