I need some advice from someone who is knowledgeable in legal issues/divorce settlement issues...
I asked about this awhile back but it's still unresolved and quite frankly, FDH and I are sick of having her phone up, play the victim and expect him to rescue her.
So, long story short: In FDH and BM's divorce settlement, it is stated that BM gets the van. It's not very close to being paid off yet. The settlement states that FDH is to transfer the title to BM's name, but the bank won't let him do that until she gets a loan. BM has been denied for a loan from every place she's gone to (she doesn't work and even though she receives and extortionate amount of money from FDH in CS and alimony, it isn't considered "reliable income") and no one is willing to co-sign on a loan with her. Therefore, FDH is stuck holding onto the title and BM is driving around an unregistered van with plates from FDH's state (she lives in a separate state).
She continuously calls him and whines about how unfair it is that the loan companies won't work with her, but hasn't bothered to call her lawyer and see if the fact that it's ordered by the court that she have the van holds any weight with any loan companies or banks. We think she hopes if she whines enough FDH will fraudulently register it in his state (he won't) or co-sign on it with her (he can't and won't).
FDH called the courthouse himself and was told he would have to call counsel and have the agreement modified, which means more legal and filing fees that we'd rather not pay for right now. I guess my question is what alternatives are there? FDH wants it off of his back and would really love to just sell it or have the bank repo it, but we worry that doing so would open him up to be charged with contempt, as it breaks the agreement. That being said, at what point has he fulfilled his end? He can't transfer it until she finds someone to co-sign - she's really only asked her parents and FDH's parents (and FDH of course), so we suspect she hasn't looked that hard for someone to help her.