kittymom's picture

Biomom running our life

I am new to this but I need some HELP! I have 3 SS and my DH X just pawns them off on us whenever fits her schedule. I love having them here, actually it is hard because I have my own bioson who is 8 and there is a lot of fighting.

lovin-life's picture

Repeating mistakes..do you worry?

Do you ever worry that your spouse is repeating some of the same mistakes he made during his first marriage?

I've heard lots of stories over the last 5 years about his first marriage, from him, his friends, his family, etc. And of course the stories always had a spin favourable to him and negative to his X. The family, who didn't live under the same roof... has been fed his spin over the years also.

Sweetie's picture

Time Marches On

Well, time continues to march on and the days pass by, each with more intense heat than the one before. Or at least, so it seems to me. It's been well over a month, and I haven't heard a peep from SS....it still bothers me. And SD's comment that her Dad is MIA--don't you think that something would click in her head--after this time--there's a reason your Dad hasn't spoken to you? Duh??? But then, biomom, has told SD she hasn't done anything to apologize for. My husband had another discussion with me about SD last night....same stuff, but he is very adamant on his opinions, which I can understand. He has pretty much marked SK off. He says maybe some day "they''ll understand what they had" and I told him it wasn't likely because of the environment in which they lived. They didn't see they were doing anything wrong. It is rather interesting that FD is this weekend, as I do wonder on the off chance that my SS might call his dad, but I would say the odds are pretty high. I think that I'll just find something to do away from the house part of Sunday so it takes my husband's mind off things and then he can go swimming in the afternoon.

Sherrylyn's picture

I'm so glad I found this

I think this site has saved my sanity. I feel so much better knowing that there are people who really understand what I'm going through. The advice & encouragement has lifted my spirits emmensely.

williteverend's picture

How many of you

believe that the hard earned money your DH pays to his X for child support is being used to actually support the child? His X has argued that she needs money for child care, but then find out she stopped using any during the school year late last year.

SMIT's picture

I just don't like her and I wish he didn't, either

As much as I hate to admit it, I'm slightly jealous of the good relationship my husband and his ex- have. I know it's better for all three of us and for my SS, but I guess I want some justification for not thinking too highly of her. She's a good mother to our little boy but there are things about her I just can't stand and I feel awful for it.

SMIT's picture

Happily wed... and no biomom at our reception!

Hi, all!

Hope everyone's doing well. Nice to see a few new users since I last logged in. This is a GREAT site and I've found it so helpful to vent to others who understand what this is like. I hope all of you new girls enjoy it as much as I do.

Sherrylyn's picture

It makes me laugh

Just recently I bumped into an older woman walking home from the local grocery store stuggling with several bags. I had a pull behind cart & offered to help her home with them. I've lived in this area for 12 years now, but the residential areas are so snakey that I steer clear of them if I can. I asked her where we were going, & when she told me I couldn't quite place it. Well it was just 2 blocks from my house. So I was left shaking my head & laughing at myself.

Sweetie's picture

Flare Ups

Well, I am looking at my hands again, and my body is starting to quit on me again. I am getting another active flare up of dermatitis going on both hands again. It never quite completely cleared up, and just basically relapsed and started again. The hot climate here hasn't helped. It has been well into the 90's all week and will remain so indefinitely. I was finally able to get white cotton gloves ordered for my hands and they should be delivered today. It took me quite some time to locate them and get them ordered.

williteverend's picture

Why is it

that my DH can't talk about any issues that deal with his EW for more than a minute. He seems to think that I am obsessed for even bringing something up. I don't think he understands how frustrating it is to be the SM and to have to deal with his past issues and the present ones, because the reality is that we have quite a few years left to deal with this.