Need advice or tips on dealing with a manipulative stepchild.

As I have stated in a previous blog, my SD3’s BM has told her that two additional friends of hers should be referred to as her other step moms. At first I thought this very odd, but then I thought…whatever. Background: BM is heavily into roller derby, has two roller derby wives (weird) and now BM wants SD3 to call them step mom.

The ride home from work today turned out to be enlightening for DH. Occasionally I'll tell him about some of the things I read and my thoughts on those things and then we get to talking about his kids. I can honestly say that my relationship with his kids are pretty decent; it's the BM's that get me up in arms.

2 more days til the big skids watching day! a little nervous, ill admit it... but excited to lay down the rules while dad isnt around! this is my house! literally! anyways just wanted to thank u girls (guys?) for being so bitterly honest about me watching my boyfriends kids for the night so he can go to work for the first time at his new job! if it wasnt for u with all ur hardcore advice i wouldve said,"no f*ckin way", but im gonna give it a shot, alone, and pray for the best! i mean its been 3 years so its about damn time! time to face my fears and lay down the law!

I started seeing a therapist without my BF. Long story short, BF wasn't too committed to going to couples therapy, so I thought I would at least take care of myself and see one.

So SS6 had to write a song for music class last night… he’s only in first grade so I’m sure they aren’t expecting an original score… but what he wrote definitely made me giggle!

*sing words to the tune of “Found a Peanut”

I want hot dogs…
I want hotdogs…
I want hooooooot dogs for dinner!

I want hotdogs
I want hotdogs
But my daaaaaad… said no!

*next verse*

I want pizza…
I want pizza…

*you get the idea*

I was upset last night with DH. And right in the middle of our disagreement, I had the realization that I live in “his and SS” house. ugh! I am so mad. I told DH that I did not feel like this is my house, but did not elaborate. Well, now he wants to talk about it, because it bothers him that I don’t feel like this house is mine. (we moved into his house last year, the year before that, we lived in my house)

I am going to tell him…

I am new here and hoping to reach some people that may have some advice and/or input on my current situation.

My husband has a three-year old daughter who, it would appear, thrives on making those around her miserable. Though she does act like a perfect little angel around her father.

I have my answer. I not going to tell BF about what I discovered about SD17 on facebook. The support and answers you all offered where great, insightful and understanding of the SM’s precarious perch.

But your answers aren’t what convinced me of my course of action. If was BF himself that convinced me there is nothing good that can come with revealing what I know.

I know a lot of us deal with bi-polar BMs, and BMs who have other disorders, which may or may not be diagnosed.

A lot of these disorders are hereditary. I.e. my mom has Asperger's Syndrome and so do I.