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A Good Day

I've had a couple of productive days here during the day by myself. It rained overnight and then the pool company was out early this afternoon again to set up the pool. Turns out the filter housing is cracked and needs to be repaired so hopefully our insurance will cover it. I have to wait for the company to send a technician to look at work order for the repair. After that, hopefully, it will be approved. But I found out, the insurance won't cover the diving board because it is a structure so we will have to purchase a new one, and that stinks, as it isn't cheap ($375). It's cracked and we have never used it once. I've had a massive migraine for over 5 days now and nothing seems to make it subside. It is driving me absolutely crazy. And I have to clean up after the dogs as my oldest one is now trying to mark everything, mostly out of spite. He is old and incontinent and has to wear a diaper part of the time so I am thinking this is his opinion of life now.

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And the fun continues!

Wow...the older she get's the more I cannot tolerate her. Today I came home to find Melanie sprawled out on her bed watching a movie with her friends. Some snide comment was made about me while I requested the dishwasher unload.

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A Really Positive Sunny Day

I had a really sunny day today!!! And I feel like I got a whole lot accomplished! We have been living here in Georgia just short of 3 months now and just had "pool school" today. It was pretty much a refresher for me but it had been quite a while since I had operated a pool system! We had to order some parts and my husband needed training from start to finish. I think next year, though, I may have someone come open and close it. I also was able to knock out some gardening and transplanting today and spent time with our dogs and we had all 3 of them outside at once. They had a ball! And it looks like my husband will enjoy using the pool for which I am glad as I know it will be an expense but it will also benefit his health as well. We spent almost the entire day outside working on one thing or another. I even got some sun, but need to be careful, especially in the future, because I do burn easily.

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House Came Tumbling Down Around Me Like a Bunch of Cards-or I DIDN"T DO YOU IDIOT!

Well, TGIF, because I don't think I could really handle this week again. My husband is quite the grouch these days and can't seem to understand that I do need his help with these dogs. His idea of "helping" is to watch tv and set the toybox out for the pup.

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How Far will you go until you just walk away?

Well, here's some food for thought as I have been thinking about this for days and days. I had written a couple of blog entries in the last two days but accidentally deleted them before I got them posted. SD's biomom sent my husband a ridiculous melodramatic email at work stating that SD was being harassed by me and that my husband needed to stop me or she would look into filing a restraining order. My husband fired back about all of SD's deflammatory remarks on the public blogs and that I had the right to respond. So, it has been an aggravating, turbulent couple of days. Much of what has happened could have been avoided if biomom had courteously shared information but refused to do so. She has repeatedly spent all her time trying to sabotage the relationship my husband and I had with SD. There is absolutely nothing left--we feel nothing towards here but a lot of hostility for stringing us along. It would have been okay if she just said she wanted to stay at Mom's--but not play all the games. We were in debt up to our necks in legal fees and could have easily lost our home. But she has followed suit to the tee with her Mom and there are no morals, it's like everything I tried to teach her has gone out the window. And then SD complains because we did not send a "mushy" card to her with her Christmas gift--mind you I went out of my way to get 2 gifts for her as my stepson called me and said she kept asking him if she was getting anything from us. So, I sent a dolphin necklace and a blue fleece jacket for skiing. Then, we never even get a thank you. This past week, she writes in her blog, that I ruined her Christmas and her time with her Mom, Mom's boyfriend, and brother by sending her a gift. I am just literally sick and I just shake all over. What is the point in trying to do the right thing? Like how was I supposed to send a Hallmark card to someone that has barely spoken to me in a year--how do you find a card that says--thanks for screwing your dad and me over?

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I'm new and need advice!

Greetings to everyone here! I found this site by searching the internet on something that would allow me to vent about my stepson. I feel bad doing this but he is like nothing I've ever seen. He has known me since he was 8.

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Well, it has been quite a week. I am a horrid, flaunting, stepmother. But I do have one stepson, that is still talking to me and he is coming to visit next month. And for that, I am grateful that he finally got himself together. Because it took a long time but at least he had more sense and didn't let his anger get the best of him. And I have 3 dogs that vary in age who are all sweet that I referee who are glad for my attention. And a husband that loves me and tells me don't worry about my SD, he will deal with her later. For the next year, she will continue to get the cold shoulder, and after that, the purse strings will be snatched back. And knowing my husband like I do, he isn't likely to forget what she has done. He told me yesterday, that my SD just basically screwed herself when she started writing all this mean and hateful stuff in the blogs. But, I just can't understand, how someone can be so hateful and why they wouldn't want to see their Dad happy with someone? I guess it has to do with some very warped thinking. As I've said before, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree (meaning her Mom).

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If you had 3 Wishes.............or If you could Change Something..............

Well, it is Friday evening. I finally got a comment from my SD on her blog directly. Of course, everything was completely turned around. i.e. I, am at fault for everything, of course, she takes no responsibility, it is our fault for leaving, yaddy, yaddy.

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The Life of a Drama Queen

I have to laugh or I'd been completely screaming and losing my mind. I have been writing about the ongoing tale of the xanga chatterbox site with my SD. Only to find out that of course, we are back with the narcissistic behavior, everything is of course, stepmom's fault, I am "flaunting her father" at her, excuse me. Hello. Then my SD best friend states I am jealous of SD when I am asking if her dog's are okay, and asking nonthreatening questions to her, making nonthreatening comments. (to SD). It's just too crazy. I'd like to know how you can flaunt your husband of 7 years (we have been together for nine) and he is at least 20 pounds heavier than when we married, and much more set in his ways. It's such a joke. Especially since my family and everyone else I knew early on acknowledge that I would have a problem with my SD b/c she was so jealous of my relationship with her Dad and even biomom was very aware of it and played off it. With all this going on (I'd check the xanga site when I came back from the doctor's appt), I had a dr's followup for my High Blood Pressure, triglycerides, cholesterol, as the doctor said that I was in a crisis marker for either a stroke or heart attack. I have had to be on a low cholesterol/low fat diet for over a month now plus take prescriptions for the blood pressure, arrthymias,

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Wish I had a Magic 8 Ball Too

Well, I almost have to laugh. The only sentence in my SD's blog last night was that she wished she had a magic 8 ball. But she was definitely interested in the xanga chatterbox. But then her best friend took over and wrote a smart comment thinking I was someone else. Well, I posted a note back, saying she didn't know what she was talking about, Erin had know me for a long time, and she need to stay out of where she wasn't needed, that Erin would think for herself. Then, I jolted Erin and said that I had sent a letter about the situation (which I had to her Mother) and also asked about her Christmas gift which I never received a thank you for.