Now that our children are older, DH has decided that we need to explain that college does not last forever. Oldest SD is 26 and we are still storing her bed and many other things in the shed. 20 year old SD is still at home part time and most of the time with her boyfriend, but still has her room. 19 year old BS part time at home and most of the time with friends, but still has his room. For some reason BS stuff if getting on DH nerves, but both of the SD stuff is not in the way. And he wonders why BS doesn't spend more time at home.

Yesterday was our second counseling session. My DH, who said he didn't care to go, used up the entire hour.

At the first counseling session he said SS22 wasn't gonna be leaving the house for another whole year. Well, I thought upon graduating from college (June2011) he's be gone. So after counseling I asked DH why SS is gonna be hanging around until next FALL? He blew up saying I wanted to throw the kid out, blah, blah, blah!!!

I was holding my breath because DH started backtracking on his claims of disciplining the skids when the report cards came out. We have known for a couple weeks that both SD and SS were going to have some F's on their report cards, so we have been talking about it. I heard him talking to them about the grades and how things were "gonna change around here". I specifically heard mention of cell phone privileges and video gaming mentioned. So, imagine my surprise when DH said he wasn't sure he was going to take anything away.

Yesterday I was browsing through my FB home page and stumbled upon a friend's status that said:

"I know shout-outs are kinda old school, but I wanna give a shout-out to my evil stepmom who is ALWAYS there for my sister and I unconditionally. I don't need a special day or ocassion to tell you just how much I appreciate all that you are - and all that you do. Love you lots!"

I told him how much I appreciated this comment and he said:

So, BM makes agreements in mediation two weeks ago. Agrees to let teens see father three times per week and encourage them to go. Agrees to let 4 year old be with father.
In true fashion she does none of those things. Fails to show at mediation yesterday.
Me, evil SO goes to mediation to clear up lies (bring documents to prove) and talk about what is best residential custody arrangement for HER children.
Mediator feels children are more bonded with mother. I query, a HEALTHY bond, or emotional hostages?

The last few weeks with my SS 9 has been hell. He's been lying, stealing food (we've now locked the pantry and the fridge), peeing his pants all the time, non-empathetic about everything, etc etc.. what else is new... now however his parents have decided that because he does so many 'bad' things all the time, they are going to praise him for the good things. Sounds reasonable.. however they are over praising everything... "Thank you for saying please", "Thank you for wiping you bum", "Thank you for not stealing food", "Thank you for doing your homework", etc etc etc.

Currently, BM is not allowed to see her kids via BF. She had lost custodianship almost 2 years ago due to drug use. So we have SKids 24/7. She was on a court program and was up to 3 unsupervised over nights a week when she decided to quit. She spent 5 days in jail. She then thought that she would just keep seeing the kids. Well, that is NOT how it went.

ok... yall wanted updates! Heres a good one for ya!

Disadvantage of living in a small town all your life: you know everyone and see everyone everywhere you go!

Advantage of living in a small town all you life: your parents went to school with the local police and you went to school with the local police's kids! so you have that connection (esp the officers who have girls, bc we all used to have sleepovers all the time!)

My exH has not seen or had any contact with our kids since they were very little in short is has been 15 years! anyway out of the blue he starts to write the kids b/c he is in prison and is bored. Dd will have NOTHING to do with him, ds started to write him till he got bored. Now his ex wife contacted me on face book, not sure if she wants a bashing fest about him or what? :? I am not going to do it though, I'll talk to her about her kids (my kids half brother and sisters) um really how should I take this? I don;t know what to think? :? :? :? :?

I knew she was doing this, but it just came out finally. SS14 just told us that BM told him that she can't pay him his allowance that she had set up w/him due to child support. Keep in mind BM a/k/a "Mange" constantly goes on vacations, (5 this year already), to go boink whatever boytoy she has going on at the time. THANK GOD this was an earlier post/discussion on STalk and found out that it was perfectly acceptable to set out the "facts" being that BM receives 25% of DH's retirement on top of her getting her full retirement, the house and all furnishings, etc.