so i'm justing waiting for the fallout to happen w/ trepidation more for sd than having to deal w/ it myself since i have the option to hang up or walk away but sd doesn't. so bm calls sat morning on our weekend visitation and we just picked them up the day prior not twelve hours earlier and they live 7 minutes from us. i hand the phone to ss and go finish helping sd clean her room when i tell her her mom is on the phone.

I have 2 good weeks a month. Each inital week right after SD's EOWE visit. Then the weekend before her visits come and I start thinking "oh God, she's going to be here this time next week" and then it turns into "Damn it, she's going to be here in less than a week"..."a few days"..."AGHHH, TOMORROW!". It ruins the whole week. Every time. And I never feel any better until she's out the door Sunday. And even then, I'm only ok until the weekend when the cycle starts all over. I really feel so sorry for my H...MOST of the time.

well, i can honestly say that my SO/BM/SD situation is looking better and better!
SO & I are trying to work things out. BM & I still get along.. and SD spent last night with me, some of my friends and their little girls...

My YSS is 17 and completing his Eagle Scout requirement project.
Now I am the one for the past 6 yrs who has been sewing on badges and helping him get to places.
I am the one ironing and washing his uniform so he looks moderately presentable.
And 3 guesses who makes guest appearance today at his project to help out and brings donuts and drink?
Yup, the ice maiden. This is the same woman who tried to get to his family day at summer scout camp and thought it was funny that she got lost and never arrived. She never turns up for any of his scout stuff.

DH has been struggling with XW#1 ever since they got divorced about putting SD into extra-curricular activities. The problem has never been that she was involved - the problem is that he was never consulted with on these decisions - he was just expected to comply. So we were jumping through hoops to get SD to this event and that event, no matter what our plans might have been. That stopped when SD decided a few years ago she was not coming over to Dad's house anymore. That lasted for a year until he charged BM with contempt a year after that decision was made.

This was a training I recently attended for work but it really is applicable to everything I'm involved with - work, home, ex's, SK's, etc. I've been checking out various blogs and forum topics and this training resonates in the back of my mind as I'm reading the "she's probably going to" or "he's thinking" or what have you.

I am trying your idea! Sd is doing a ton of housework at this very moment! I hope this works!

I am new to the whole blogging world and this site would be extremely helpful to me if I only knew WHAT THE HECK HALF OF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT! hahaha I feel like an idiot but I have no clue what all these abbreviations are.

o/t
BM (birth mother?)
DH (dear husband?)
FSS
FSD
SD(step daughter?)
PAS
SO (significant other?)
etc...

I know there is a bunch more being used, I'd appreciate some help with this! That way I can get a move on with my own blogging on here hehe.

OMG! My dh completely shocked me! So i posted earlier today about dh taking ss to the fair last night knowing we were having a talk with ss today. Read my last few posts if you don't know. So, his morning dh is dreading this talk. He wants me to do it all. I was fine with doing most of the talking at first- until dh 'rewarded' ss by taking him to the fair last night. I told dh he wasn't going to get away with playing nice guy all weekend and having me come out as the mean one. Then dh started with the video was 'kids being kids', 'it's's not that bad', blah blah.

So dh and ss are on their way here for ss visit. Today was the day we planned on talking to ss, like I posted about yesterday. Normally dh picks up ss and comes right back home- a 4hr round trip. Last night he decides to stay in town with his mom (mil) and drove back this morning. Fine. Except dh took ss to the fair last night!!! What the heck? It's not tht I care he took him. If it were any other weekend, then fine. But this is the weekend we are hving this serious talk and what does dh do? Oh, let me reward this kid for his abusive behavior!!! Genius dh.