(sing it with me ala The Beatles)

Better, better, better...

So last night, my FW walked into the boys' room after they were told to go to bed and they didn't comply.

I heard this:

"You are selfish, inconsiderate brats when you don't do as you're told! You disrespect us when don't do as you as you are told!"

Does anyone else get these from Crazy BMs?

This has happened on several occasions, but I want to pinpoint a specific one.

Over the holidays, BM was on her super crazy horse. One minute its "let's get dinner and catch up. You are still my best friend. I miss us" and the next its "your evil and fake and your girlfriend is the worst person ever and she's evil and awful".

Of all of the things that I have mentioned here, here is one that I left out -- BM doesn't drive. Nope, all of the driving is on us -- which usually falls on my husband. She is a grown woman who just has not bothered to get her drivers license. We live about 35 minutes away from her.

Princess left this morning. she announces last night that she has decided to spend her last few days of her college break with her mother and "Lil Granma."

And she knew Loghead and I had plans to spend Saturday with her and take her to a big local event, and out to dinner, and getting last minute things she needs for back to school.

I am so tired of going shopping and buying snacks only to have them all opened on Thurs when the step kids are here. I went shopping yesterday and did not open anything. When I get home and look in the pantry this is what they opened
A bag of oatmeal cookies and didn't even eat one
A box of club cracker
2 boxes of fruit roll ups
1 box of vanilla wafers
1 Box of gushers

There are only three of them and my daughter is here 80% of the time and I never have a problem with this.

Okay, so I know this is a dumb thing to be happy about. But I just can't help myself.

So New Years weekend BF's BD(6) asked us if we were going to get married. BF asked her why she wanted to know and she says that her mom aka Double E
wanted her to ask. So my BF just looks at me wanting to know what he should tell her. I know it's none of Double E's business but I just couldn't help myself. So I told BF that if she wants to know then tell BD yes we are getting married.

Dh starts talking about how his SD14 feels stuck in the middle. I say poor thing knowing that she has been treated as an adult growing up. Involved in conversations with grown women bitching about other women friends, family and the world. Told price tags on major purchases like, cars houses, underwear (mother's). All I said that were not brought up how kids should be he goes mad I explain what I meant and he still says I'm wrong and out of order.

Am I wrong??

My BF's step-D caused trouble for me on New Year's Day. I posted it under the "Adult Stepkids" forum. Since then, she has apologized, but to me, it seemed like what I call a "non-apology". I have read some sites that state that the components of a real apology are:

1. The wrong-doer admits to wrong-doing
2. The wrong-doer accepts responsibility for their actions
3. The wrong-doer tries to make amends
4. The wrong-doer vows not to do the hurtful act again, and actually works at not doing it again.

One week since she "ran away"...I am back to taking her to work. How? I hate it. I have to put a stop to this insanity.

I come here and read and it gives me back some perspective. I read on one post that we should not feel responsible for these kids behavior etc. I forget that. That if she is off lying to perfect strangers about me, and how horrible I am, then that is HER behavior, and it is lies. If these people choose to believe it then so be it. That is there problem. It is very hard to let it go, surprisingly. A person doesn't like to be talked bad about and lied about.

I have a giant german shepherd. I adopted her as a puppy. I am the only one who pooper scoopers after her (of course). Today, as I was scooping...and oddly enough, the sack of $#!t closely resembled BM2....AND SMELLED LIKE HER TOO!