FDH finally had his surgery. He told me on Thursday that it was going to be this past Monday, but I didn't want to get excited b/c it's been scheduled, rescheduled, and cancelled so much already.

BM is pathological liar, who has consistently popped up over the years to torture us, even though she has claimed that she is frightened of DH. She has relentlessly stalked me on the internet, finding me on social networking pages even after I had blocked her, sending me messages and emails, sometimes even devoting whole web pages to me. She has told lie after lie about DH, claiming he is abusive and a threat to her life, when this guy wouldn’t even hurt a fly.

My FDH and I have a bar that we hang out at fairly frequently, I used to work there, he DJS there sometimes, that's actually how we met. We hang out there together pretty regularly, sometimes when he is DJing, sometimes just for fun. On Monday we were there together and then on Tuesday (yesterday) he was having a few drinks there by himself after work. Later on Tuesday we were at home together having dinner when he mentioned something odd that had happened at the bar when he was there earlier.

A Woman we both sort of know came up to him and said ...

My DH and I managed to work through some of our issues. I found out I was pregnant, which was what we wanted and the issues with the middle SS seem to be getting worse. I am due in 4 weeks.

I need some advice in regards to the SS and some comments that he has made to me, not in the presence of my husband. They scare me.

A few months ago I was in the car taxiing them around and the SS asks what a will is. As I tried to give him a brief explanation he says out of the blue something in effect of I think about you being dead or about killing you....

I found this in a response to another blog. Can't remember who posted it, but whoever you are thanks! It's absolutely brilliant and shouldn't be missed.

http://www.shrink4men.com/2011/05/17/does-your-wife-or-ex-wife-have-a-go...

Here's some interesting points:

(I posted this in "Blended Family Issues" forum as well)

I've been MIA for a while, dealing with lots of life stuff. I hope all is well.

I've been wondering about sharing this for months now, and I feel like it's something I can finally do.

SS has MAJOR trust issues. It takes forever to even get close to him and if one bad thing happens you get shut out. It does not even matter who did the offending act. Everyone gets shut out. The ex-wife pulls stupid crap all the time but SS ends up being cold to my husband and I instead. Sometimes it takes weeks for him to come around again. I want him to go to therapy but he will not even entertain the idea. How do you help people overcome this? We have been nothing but supportive for a while now but it has no effect on him.

So after several increasingly miserable weekends with SD, last night I finally initiated what I hoped would be a calm, constructive conversation about how SO and I could improve the situation.

I brought up some behaviors and examples of how SD6 has been acting like she doesn’t like me and is disrespectful to me. I asked if we could find a way to get to the bottom of this and maybe fix it. Since she did seem to like me previously, I thought maybe some event or misunderstanding happened that caused the change.

What did he take out of it? “I know, I know- you hate SD!”

AHHHH. What's making me the most angry right now is that I let that little snot nosed bully infuriate me. If he were my BioS I would look at him and laugh and say get over yourself, take your flippin $246 medicine and stop being nasty. But no, I let him make me angrier and angrier.

To tell the truth, I think its flat out stupid to refer to a person as your "half brother" or "half sister"..It doesn't matter if you have the same mom and different dads or the same dad and different moms. You're siblings and should always be referred to as that. I wish people would stop this half stuff. All its doing is separating the kids and making them inferior to one another. As parents we must inform our kids that they're siblings no matter what. They are full siblings at that. This transition from using this term starts with us and we need to put it in full effect.