.....the BM is dead.

She was horrible for her entire adult life and left a lot of mess behind for others to settle.

My husband has had an immediate improvement in a lot of his health issues, likely from the eradication of deep seated injustice and stress. The purging of old stories about how horrific she treated him seem to be slowing, and I expect those wounds are finally scarring over. She was such a manipulative, drug-addled parasite on every person or institution with which she came into contact.

Ugh, y'all... let's see, so Tumbles wants to come celebrate her 30th birthday with DH and MIL. DH let me know that, and that she's deep in a relationship with a new guy at three months. How do I express my "support"? First of all, I'm not engaged with her and I responded by saying to him "ok, I hope that works out". And... do I want to celebrate her and DH's birthday OR do I want to not go? If I don't go, then it's going to make things worse, but if I do go it's going to be the usual "show" with the three of them quite simply making me feel absolutely like s!!t!

If you follow my blog you know ALL the drama SD15 and BM stirred up a Month ago . Since the confrontation and DH told SD everything has been peaceful here at home. SD never ever apologized or even tried to reach out to DH after she blamed him for everything and calling him ignorant. DH had not reached out to SD at all until today. I knew it was coming because we were meeting MIL and SIL for brunch and no matter how horrible SD behaves, they always make DH feel guilty .

Whoever quoted "Old Habits Die Hard" really hit the nail on the head.

For a while I felt my DH was doing a lot better with SD(13) when it came to her entitled, lazy attitude and lack of respect/boundaries but lately its been the same story and I'm so frustrated. I'm grieving the fresh loss of my mother so that just makes it all worse.

So,  DW just got off a half an hour call with my MIL. New furniture for MIL came up.  I have been planning on MIL new LR furniture for some time.  No one will actually just do the things they talk about doing for MIL because "she might not like it".  I am getting to the end of my rope with everyone's walking on egg shells with MIL.  

So, I shopped for and found some very nice stylish high quality furniture that is on clearance at a place near MIL's and reserved it for delivery.  I went with dark blue since cleanliness is a challenge for MIL's home.

Hi everyone!!  I hope you are all doing well at the start of this New Year!

DH and I are doing very well!  We had a great trip to Patagonia last year.  And, DH is set to retire in October of this year - so we have more adventures ahead of us!

So as far as I know - Bratty is enoying her first year of med school and being very studious.  Good for her, everyone is proud.

But...

I have a Facebook account.  Bratty and DH"s family is on it.  Vacation photos, etc.  No problem with that.

I have 2 Instagram accounts. 

Initially, BM came on way too strong with me, acting like we’d be sister wives or something. It was creepy—she had no boundaries. She tried to rope me into keeping secrets from DH, as if my loyalty would be to her, not him. I had recognized for some time that she was about control and manipulation, but had no idea what was coming once we married. 

SD is 14. Recently moved to England with mom and step dad that's in the air force. Long story short mom spoke with daughter and made the decision to move without discussing with her dad. There is no custody order never has been. He was basically told it's what she wants. Mom always lets her do what she wants. She's missed weekends over the years to spend it with friends or birthday parties or her family. I've repeatedly told him to get an order but he just wouldn't do it. Biomom argues and her parents have a lot of money and we don't.

Every once in a while we go through this cycle of our youngest missing his BM. He cry's and throws a tantrum at 7 years old. Mom still lets him sleep with her in her bed and BD house we are trying to get him use to sleeping in his own bed as he is a big boy and we want him to gain confidence. I told him "we love your cuddles but you need room to stretch out. You are growing so much, and we need you to start practicing sleeping in your own bed. Someday you will have a place of your own, so start practicing now that way when that day comes you are ready".

Stepmum of a boy and a girl now grown up. I have been in their lives 21 years. When they were young we were extremely close, l was a mum in every sense including potty training they were so young. Their Mum left their Dad.  Now they are in their twenties l feel a distance. They visit and we get on great but outside of visits they only call and text their Dad, despite setting up a family chat they don't use it.  Face to face we chat away as always, l get all the news updates etc but in between nothing, while their Dad gets all the photos and in-between information.