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Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Fri, 09/15/2017 - 4:36pm

According to BM and SD's counselors and psychiatrist, SD has mental issues. She has ADHD, Depression, Anxiety and some type of mood disorder. She is totally out of control for BM. DH would never admit it that SD has any problems. He swears that SD listens to him and behaves very well for him. DH is in DENIAL. Sad

Next month SD has a court date to determine what type of treatment she will need. She is going to court because BM filed a CHINS (child in need of supervision) on SD. BM has tried for years to get help for SD's behavior but it just isn't working. SD hit BM and filed a false child abuse claim on BM again. BM had enough and filed the CHINS. Now the judge will decide the treatment.

BM told DH about the court date. I really wished she would have not told him that. I am hoping DH decides not to go. I know, that SD is more than likely going to be sent to a group home a few hours away. I have my sources and I can find out information. DH does not know this. The group home has great reviews and it may just help SD. DH isn't going to like it and I am not sure if he will be able to stop it in court. I do know that he would try to stop it. BM has full custody of SD. DH didn't really want to fight it out in court and basically gave BM total control without realizing it (long story). BM will have the counselors and the psychiatrist reviews with her. I am hoping that DH does not interfere or if he does interfere that the experts opinions will override him. SD needs this help.

DH wanted to go for custody of SD and bring her here. She isn't coming here. My previous blog explains all of it.

Everyone please send good vibes for SD getting the help she needs.

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Submitted by Indigo on Fri, 09/15/2017 - 8:05pm

Is the CHINS a prelude to relinquishing SD-15 into the foster system? Or is it something more along the lines of mandating family counseling/therapy? Even in a group home situation, would DH be required to participate? And, who will pay for it?

Honestly, you are correct that SD-15 appears to be "way over your paygrade." Sorry that you are all facing this situation and I hope that SD-15 is finally able to get the help that she needs.

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Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Sat, 09/16/2017 - 11:38am

I have been trying to find out more information on the program. There is limited information online. It does state that there COULD be mandatory counseling for SD and/or BM(since she is the primary care giver and the one that is having the problem with sd), can be sent to a group home or she could be relinquished into foster care.

It is more than likely that SD will be going to a group home that specializes in children with mental issues. It has been recommended to the judge to send her to this group home and he will more than likely send her.

SD has already been to a group home and was kicked out when she was about 12 years old. At that time, DH continued to pay his child support but it went directly to the group home. BM also had to pay the group home. I am sure that the child support could be adjusted if the group home needed more. From my understanding, it would still apply the same. The counseling will be split between both parents.

I am sure DH wants to avoid the extra charges and bring her here. I just think he is just trying to "save" SD but he will do more harm that good. He is in just so much denial. She has really needed help for a long time. She has been in counseling since she was 7 years old, right after DH and I got married. At first, I thought she just had behavioral issues and a case of guilty parenting. Now, I see there could be some mental illness.