Should SO include you when making/changing plans with baby mama/daddy?
This is one of our biggest issues. I feel that DH shouldn't change/make plans (besides parenting plan) without including me. BM is a huge, game playing manipulator. She ALWAYS changes the plan and NEVER follows the court ordered parenting plan. It says 6pm @ set location, every week she's calling MY DH at least 5 times and changing the plan. DH let's her walk all over him and bends over for her. She even changes the weekends we have her, adds time, takes away time, changes location, makes him pick up SD & drop off SD to her wherever she may be at the time. She ALWAYS does it last minute too. Calls the night before, tells him to get SD the next day at x time and x place. DH says "ok!" to everything and always tells me after the fact! Our whole 4th of July changed cuz we had to meet BM every demand. I'm past my due date by 3 days, could go any time now and BM dumps SD on us. DH agrees without talking to me! The bitch knows I'm over due and having a baby, and it's her "vacation" time with SD (14 days un interrupted) but of course she's fucking with the schedule.
It pisses me off to no end. I've asked, told, pleaded with DH to tell her we'll get back to her, talk to me, HIM AND I come up with what works for US, and get back to her.... but he never does. Partly because she's a skeezy bitch and will say "oh you have to ask your wife first, well fuck you then I'm keeping her" or " ooh you don't want more time with your daughter cuz you have to check your schedule, fuck u I'm keeping her" BULLSHIT! I've told him for 7 years he needs to stop doing everything the way she wants, but if he doesn't kiss her fucking ass all the time she makes life miserable.
Do you and your SO discusses things first of just do whatever the kids parent wants? does your SO handle everything regarding schedule? are you involved and have a say? need advice, this pisses me off!