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please please someone make me understand this...

epgr's picture

So BM has not seen or talked to SS13 and SD11 since May 8, if you have read any of my posts you know there are issues with SS13, children services came to our house to talk to SS13 on things he said to a counceler about BMs boyfriends son.. (we knew about the things and called children services when it happened, but the counceler called again) so last night after 2 emails, that we know she read (sent with email tracking program), DH texted her and asked if she was ever gonna talk about this stuff so that we can make plans for summer, BM replied with "I am not talking now, cys was here tonight and I am not happy with the accusations", she was told that ss13 insisted for months these things happened and they are the same things as before, she said she told the case worker they are the same as before andthen BM said soemthing that even suprised us.. she said "I not happy, and I am suprised the kid being accused does not hate me by now"
Ok so YOUR kids, who you have not seen are going thru somethings, the kid you are defending is being accused of beating on YOUR son, pressuring YOUR son to watch porn and showed him how to get on and what porn sites to get on, YOUR son inappropriately touched YOUR daughter.. you have not seen or talked to them in almost 2 months, and you are worried about this kid hating you, the kid you have only known for a year and 2 months??
omfg.. someone explain to me how she can just not give a shit about her kids..
btw, the first time around with the accusations she said she knew that the kid hit, and "boxed" SS13, and she has had trouble with her boyfriends kids getting on porn sites... hell last summer when his appendix ruptured 2 days later they thought his stomache still hurt because the kid punched him .. what he called boxing.. and BM is the one who told us that..
what a freaken loser!

JJO's picture

Apparently this is common among divorced mothers with children. They are afraid not to lose their "mating partner" and set their BEDROOM as their priority. Not their children.And sometimes not even themselves . Just the feeling that they are not alone...
But i cant explain why. Insecurity maybe?

epgr's picture

I am also a bio mom.. I got remarried and had 2 more kids and NEVER once have I ever pushed the responsibilty of my bio kids off on someone else or put anything before them, not in any little way whatso ever!!!
maybe its a maturity thing.. hell she dont have custody of them, I would die if I didnt have my kids with me, if they were going to bed somewhere else, being taken care of by someone else, telling their problems to someone else.. that would be heart breakiing for me.. but not DH's ex.. nooo she willingly signed over everything she had little by little, never put up a fight..she is a moron.. because the old saying is true, to be in your kids memories tomorrow you have to be in their lives today.. and she isnt gonna be anywhere around..
I wish I knew then what I know now.. I would have been so far away from this complete and total black hole