Is BM making SD3 "the ugly" kid??
SO has a 3 year old daughter that came out of a "friends with benefits" situation. BM is horrible to SO; calls him names, accuses him of being a drug addict, says he neglects his children, says he lies all the time, claims he's abusive and a cheater, she does it all. They are in the middle of a custody battle and SO has been denied access to SD for almost 2 years now. Things aren't pretty (and haven't been since I came into the picture when SD was 6 months old, but that's another story).
BM also has another daughter a couple years older than SD. I have noticed that she tries to make her older daughter look super cute and girly while she dresses SD3 in ratty clothes and has cut her long precious curls off to a boy cut. Her older daughter looks exactly like BM while SD3 is the spitting image of SO. Is it possible that BM is trying to make SO's daughter be "the ugly one" so that she gets satisfaction of the kid who looks like her being "the cute one" or am I looking too far into this? Every negative characteristic SD has she blames on SO. Has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?