2 years this weekend since we've seen SD3
This weekend marks 2 years since SO has been able to spend time with SD3. He has not seen her or heard from any of her mother's family except for 3 times when he managed to force a phone call out of BM to ask for time with SD (to which she hung up before agreeing to anything). She has changed her number, moved away, cut out all of his family, made sure none of her family have contact with him, etc. She tells SD her daddy is her first kid's father and that SO is just the sperm donor, you know, the usual parental alienation. She posts rants almost daily on her social networking sites about how shitty of a person SO is and how terrible his family is and how "inappropriate" I am. SO and I and his entire family have kept our mouths shut about everything hoping it will eventually die down. He has made several attempts to file for joint custody (they were never married so stupidly never got any sort of order in place), but every time he does, something goes wrong (financial issues are the usual cause, he pays so much in child support he is literally not able to support himself at all and he's been fighting with domestic relations for years now and they just don't care; not enough money to pay for a lawyer, but makes too much before child support is taken out of his checks to get financial aid, etc.).
With it being 2 years now since we've seen her and 3 years since the lying and attacks have started, I decided I'm not keeping my mouth shut anymore. I'm standing up for SO and SD and defending him against every lie she tells (he doesn't have facebook or any other accounts like that). I typed up this long thing to post to all our friends on FB and I would like to get your opinions on it. I'm not sure if things could really get any worse for us right now, so I'm not really worried about that. I'm just thinking if it will actually change anything in regards to people who support her abuse. Here it is:
"I have kept my mouth shut about this for far too long. It's time to stand up, spread the story, and hope to fix the problem. After three years of malicious lies and abuse, I'm not dealing with it anymore. SO did not abandon his child. SD was taken away from him by her selfish mother in attempt to hurt SO. SO is called a deadbeat, a drug user, a liar, an abuser, a child neglecter, when in reality, none of this is true. We have lost friends over these lies, but more importantly, he has lost the ability to see his daughter grow up. By taking away all opportunities to contact SD, any possibilities of developing a strong father/daughter bond have been abolished by her mother's hatred for him. As much as I know it hurts SO and his family to not be a part of his daughter's life, I know it's hurting SD the most. She's going to have to deal with the knowledge one day that her mother hated her father more than she loved SD. She is going to deal with the feelings of being unwanted and unloved because of the lies her mother is telling her. She is going to deal with thinking she's half a deadbeat/liar/loser/abuser/etc. She is suffering and everyone in support of this woman is simply aiding in child abuse.
Educate yourself on parental alienation and learn the signs. A father who is so involved and supportive in one child's life would not abandon his other child. He would not ask his child's mother for a written custody agreement and then end all contact after she agrees to it. He would not pay thousands of dollars in child support and suffer financially for a child he doesn't care about. He would not silently sit in the shadows as his character and family name are torn apart. How can one go from saying he's the best daddy their daughter could have to being the worst "sperm donor" in a matter of days? Open your eyes and protect these children's rights to BOTH parents."
Should I post it? Opinions? What would you all do? I could easily go on keeping my mouth shut, but I'm at a point that I just don't care anymore about what else she'll pull on us next.