Why would BM do this?
BM and I have been trying to put past problems aside and co-exist. She was a great friend of mine years before SO and i got together (we've been together for almost 4 years), but had a falling out several years ago and things have never been the same. I've seen her do some terrible things to him (which she denies ever doing), but I've seen her first hand do really horrible things to me, so I have no reason to believe she is truthful about what she "didn't do" to SO.
Two nights ago, she tagged me in a picture on Facebook of SD3 and I clicked on it the next morning and it had 11 comments between her and her EX (who she is trying to make "daddy" to SD3) about how SD3 should have never had SO's last name and that she looks/acts more and more like "daddy" (meaning the ex) every day and she's so thankful for him. Why in the HELL would she tag me in that?? Things were going well; Ive been keeping myself out of her issues with SO and she had been being respectful of my wishes to stay out of their crap until she did that. She told me she was sorry and she "didn't think" about how it would make me feel, but I have the strongest feeling that she did it on purpose and that she has some sick motives behind it. Why would she have done that? Should I just ignore it and go back to trying to stay out of their crap? For the record, I am seriously unable to go back to having a negative relationship with this woman; if i cut off contact with her, she will turn it around to me being the horrible person and she's the victim and her smear campaign will start again. I was put into therapy and diagnosed with depression and social anxiety that all stemmed from her harassment and manipulation. I CANNOT do that again. I don't know what to do.