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Can't Adjust To Loving My Stepson
It's been 6 yrs now since I've been in this relationship, til today I can't seem to love my stepson the way I love my own daughter. I believe it has to do a lot with me not caring about his bio mom. Biomom irritates me, even though we don't talk at all, the thought of her being involved in our lives irritates me. I can't seem to love or be affectionate towards my stepson. I feel like he is a stranger when he is at our house...don't know why I have this feeling. I'm nice to him but just can't seem to adjust to loving him. Any advice?
Sorry to hear that
I think I get what you mean. To tell you the truth, you may never love him the exact same way that you love your own daughter. It is just different. I am sure that you do have some degree of love for him but as I said, it is different.
It is hard when you know that your stepson has a mother that he will choose over you no matter what. Just because she is his mother.
Doing nice things for him is good. It will show him that you care.
Hang in there.
Dawn
Thanks Dawn.
Yes you are right it is different but I feel this guilt over me when I think about it. It's a bit hard to deal with at times when I see him. But I know what you are saying. Just like when it's xmas time and when we go to my family side to celebrate, my stepson never receives gifts from my family and they only give my daugther gifts and not him. I feel kinda bad for him. It's like my family doesn't except him as my stepson or maybe that he is never around with me.
That's weird
I wonder why your family doesn't give him any gifts at Christmas? My family treats my stepson as if he were my son. My parents spend the same amount on him as they do on my brother's kids.
I would feel bad for him to. I think I would have to talk to my family on that one. He should at least get some kind of gifts!
Dawn
Dawn...
I don't really know the reason why don't include him... I think its a lot to do with him not hanging out with me and my daugther when we visit my family. I think his biomom instructs him to not hang out with me and my daughter and so when ever I ask him to come with me, he says no all the time and just stays with his dad. I get a bit upset about that but I don't want to force him to come with me. I believe his biomom doesn't want me to have anything to do with her son. I don't blame my family for not including him because he is so distant with me and my own family. They just don't see him in the picture.
Get to the bottom of it
Doesn't your husband want to get to the bottom of why his son is so distant? If that were my stepson, my husband would talk to him first and then we would have a family meeting to discuss everybody's feelings. It must be hard for you to deal with that after 6 years.
Dawn