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DH and the skid chat

Sweetnothings's picture

Well, DH pops onto a social website, on the off chance that younger skid maybe on there to chat to.

Skid is online and DH sat " chatting " to him for almost two hours, and lucky me, DH throughout that time repeated out loud large chunks of the conversation. I felt I couldn't just gather up my stuff and move to another room ( we were in the office anyway!! ) as it would cause DH to be upset with me, as he had already asked me if I wished to join the conversation and I had to say " um no DH I'm already busy with something here "

I say two hours of convo but it really was like DH writes something and then waits like ten minutes for skid to reply, and guess what they talked about ?? Video games, how skid plays all these different games online, etc, etc.

I was itching to ENGAGE, well, not really, but I wanted to ask, has skid found any work yet ? Is skid still living at home ? Is skid thinking about his future....at all ??? I know all the answers to these questions anyway, but DH just stuck to the " fun" "silly " conversation topics, because, well then there are no problems to worry about and no one questions anything and then everything is all HAPPY HAPPY !!!

The usual thing happened after the chat, DH says I'm too quiet and has he upset me in some way, blah, blah.....

No DH you haven't, just because I wish to remain disengaged , you talk to your skid about nothing, nothing will change, nothing at all....not my problem.....

The evil me wanted to ask, how is the BM coping with no CS anymore ?? If we lived in the same country this skid would have been shipped to us now, as the money has stopped so now the ADULT skid would be OUR problem !!!

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oldone's picture

I overhead DH's conversations with adult SS. DH never asks those questions about "where are you living", "do you have an apartment", "are you still couch surfing".

And the job stuff is utter bullshit. No way SS is working 70-80 hours a week at a major chair restaurant like he claims. No way a company this big could pay him off the books with no overtime.

Sweetnothings's picture

It seems to me there is a taboo list of subjects that divorced Dads with ADULT skids, especially those who have been brought up to be or to feel entitled , must NOT mention at any cost !!

I mean I remember my own parents ALWAYS asking about my job, my plans, how it was going,etc etc and I grew up with a strong work ethic in place ( if I wanted the extras as a Teen ( like magazines, makeup, additional clothes, etc ) I had to get a job and pay for them !! ) AND so did my DH !! This is what makes this all the harder, that he shares the same opinions as me, but with the skids, it's all opinions and rules are NEVER to be mentioned.....