DH walked in as I started my post, so I cut it short. Keep in mind that he just got home from being out of town last night and he'll be gone again tomorrow night. Being left with SD13 isn't usually too much of a problem, but those of you who know my story KNOW that SD19 is a royal ODD POS.

DH: My daughter needs to see me and I need to see her, so she's coming home this weekend.
ME: That's fine, but no hedgehog.
DH: I'll make sure she takes care of it.
ME: That's not the real problem here.
DH: SD19 called me crying, saying she wanted to come visit. I need to see my kid.
ME: I understand that, so go visit her somewhere and don't bring the hedgehog into this house.
(Eerie calmness from both of us......)
DH: Look, you can blame me. I told her no, then yes, then no with the hedgehog.
ME: And she should have consequences for the choice she made. She won't clean the cage, it'll be 90 degrees upstairs because she'll leave her blinds up.....Nevermind. WHAT example do you think you're setting for her?
DH: Well, she's getting older......
ME: She hasn't changed. She always wants what she wants and she will cry or throw a tantrum until she gets it. She needs to get an apartment near campus this summer and stay there with the hedgehog.
DH: You just don't want her here.
ME: Every time she's here, she disrespects the entire household and sits around here like its a free ride, because it IS. She's in between being a kid and being ready to launch, so now's the time.
DH: I'm not having my kid stay away all summer.
ME: I've looked at apartments, so maybe I need to go. I always have to bend for everyone around here. I have never given you any shit before this. You and the kids always get what you want.

Pizza was delivered. DH called up to me. I didn't answer. He came upstairs and I was crying. I told him I couldn't live like this.

FML

~ Moon

I am waiting for myself to SNAP. It will happen this evening. I told him we weren't done with talking. Oh hell NO.

But now I have made myself sick. Why even bother with this shit?

I called him back upstairs because we need to work something out. It went well for about 20 minutes, then he got pissed like he always does, started saying rude things.

Before that, I told him I feared that SD19 would never change and continue to have angry outbursts in our home. I told him I had been tolerant for so long and had done so much for these Skids, but I just couldn't take it anymore. He finally stormed out and as he did he said, " You can handle hedgey being here this weekend until we figure out something else for the summer!"

So I think he sees I'm standing my ground. A spa for the weekend DOES sound nice though ...

Oh and get THIS! I said,"So SD19 is back from being out of town now? You know the dorms are closed for spring break, so where is she staying?"

DH doesn't even know. I guess SD19 is ok out there, except even with a sorority sister tagging along with her, she still calls home to DH crying about how loooonnnne-ly she is!

Grow up already. Both SD19 and DH!

-Moon

We own this house together and we each are renting out the houses we lived in previously. If anything, "I" have the cop mentality. DH just won't listen. One thing is for sure, SD19 will not part with her hedgehog, so she needs to live elsewhere. Earlier when we had our first calm talk, I told DH that she needs boundaries and consequences, she needs to do chores and not sit on her ass for days on end when she is not at work, she needs to fucking CLEAN up after herself in the kitchen, that includes not taking or breaking kitchen items all of the time. DH was nodding in agreement and kept saying Yes, he would lay down some ground rules and keep her in line.

Then we ordered pizza and I went upstairs and started this blog. I realized that SD19 would never change because what she always does ALWAYS works for her. I also realized that DH wouldn't parent her, as usual. That's when I called DH in to talk more and he got pissy. He kept whining that he didn't get any sleep on the road last night, drove a long way back home and has to have a long commute tomorrow.

Waaaaah, I say.

DH is not due back until Friday afternoon. At this point, I don't even want to SEE SD19. I know she is getting an earful from DH through all of this. I may pack a bag Thursday night and not come home Friday. Stay at a nice place for the weekend and commute to work from there Monday. I will accomplish quite a few things: 1) I will scare the living shit out of DH. 2) I won't have to deal with SD19. 3) I will get some down time away from all of this drama.

I just got a big bonus at work so screw it, I might do it. I don't think I could stand to see that stupid C U Next Tuesday in my home anyway. I spoke to DH at length about how disrespectful she is, and how easily she gets angry. He agreed, so he knows that now I REALLY don't want to deal with her shit.

Might be a nice weekend and my pups will be fine for a few days with Curly, Mo and Larry.

~ Moon

The last words I heard from him tonight were, "I think you handle the hedgehog being here for one weekend until we figure out what to do for the summer."

Either way, it needs to cost him. Someone needs a separate household. He can help pay the mortgage while I stay here with the dogs and he goes back to his TH with the Steps, including SDog. Or, he can set SD19 up in an apartment near campus a "few months early" before fall semester. As in JUNE. He can GO visit her. She has a job here that pays $7.75 an hour. She can find work elsewhere, like on campus.

This is going to be a bitch. It might be the end. I don't know yet.

Oh SD19 misses DH. She will be on his leg like cling wrap all weekend. She is a true mini-wife/infant and DH has been a friend and not a father. Damn straight it's because he doesn't want to hear her bitch. Ironic, because for ONCE, for the FIRST time this entire school year YSD13 who identifies as a boy, has been invited to a sleep over. DH and I were going to have the house to ourselves Saturday night, to reconnect. I even spoke with him about that yesterday and he gave me the "Yeah, right" speech. I asked him why he was surprised that I was tired and run down all of the time?

Because he's never home and doesn't parent his DDs.

I'm really thinking of turning off my Google+ so I can't be tracked this weekend, and staying away until Monday, like I had mentioned earlier. I DO NOT want to see SD19 in my home at this point. Let her get in and get out, and after my weekend of "reflection" I will tell DH he needs to move back to his TH. He's picking a hedgy over his wife. Fuck. Me.

~ Moon

So much great advice from all of you. Thanks so much, because this has been a nightmare. And its over a frikkin hedgehog. DH originally told SD19 NO at Thanksgiving. I was there and I heard it. Case settled. Then SD19 goes to an NFL game with DH in January over winter break and bats her eyelashes at him, asking to get a hedgehog. DH caves in and says YES and then I find out. I asked him what happened to the NO from Thanksgiving?!? He admitted that he gave in, and I argued that NOW he has to tell her he made a mistake and its NO dice on the hedgehog.

Princess Bitch went and got it anyway. Blows my mind. A lot of you have put it in a very good perspective. THEY created the problem, THEY need to solve it, and not at MY expense in MY home. Sally, I have given the cold evil stare. I need to just keep it simple now, like you suggested. You have the hedgehog in this home OR you have me in this home. Take your pick, but not both. SD19's track record with taking care of things and cleaning after herself is a joke. It doesn't happen.

Damn he is such an enabler.

I am actually fearing trying to bar the door when SD19 arrives with the hedgehog. I suppose it's the fact that she is so defiant. I think she would either spit on me and that would set ME off to no end (she did this to her dying BM, a month before she passed). I fear that she may get physical and then I would SNAP and knock the living shit out of her, yelling on the front porch, loud enough for the neighbors to think the Apocolypse was coming! I have a lot of trouble tolerating stupid behaviors esp disrespectful ones. People have cut me off in traffic before and I have followed them around town just to fuck with them. I get my point across as I block in their vehicle with mine and I see they are calling 911. Go ahead, tell them it's a crazy woman. The whole time I'm yelling out the window, "Can we talk? We need to talk about what you just did to me back there!" Yeah, full on sarcasm. I have been a piece of work on few dozen very rare occasions for stupid saps in this world.

Who said it another post with narcissists? "Observe, don't absorb." Just watch the pathetic NPD BPD act like a total whack job and don't absorb. I could probably laugh at this point. I just can't see me calling the police for this lmao, "Hi, my defiant SD19 is attempting to enter my home against my will. She has a hedgehog." }:) Bwahahahah!

I needed that moment for a good laugh! We are SO NOT this kind of family! Where did this come from? SD19 is craycray. She needs to be in a diaper just like SDog. Maybe Hedgy can get a diaper too, and they can travel, doing shows together. This is just so surreal.

I have never walked out on DH. Never. I freaked out yesterday because I thought I heard SD19 in the house, thought she came by early! It was the strangest thing! And what does DH expect? For me to be nice while she's here? He said he would take her to the movies or something. BS. He's going to be sleeping when he gets back from business travel tomorrow.

I don't want to be NEAR SD19. I will have a heart attack. I didn't even eat last night. That is NOT me because I am a comfort eater. I think I would rather be in a hotel somewhere, relaxing with room service and quiet, with an evil smirk on my face. DH will be worried crazy about me and it certainly serves him right. My action of not being home will speak louder than anything. I need my rest, too.

I am doing laundry early tonight with a small knot in my stomach, but I guess you could say I am taking the first small steps to execute my plan. I won't come home after work tomorrow and I will fall off of the map. I will tell DH he chose a vermin over his marriage when he texts me. If I chose to reply. He needs to see how utterly ridiculous this is!

~ Moon

I just shared a can of Pringles with my dogs, so I'm feeling a little better. LOL Time to pack my suitcase. }:)

I hope I have the nerve to go through with this.

~ Moon

The only reason I'm not gone yet is because of my beautiful dogs. I have been looking at the best hotel deals all night. My suitcase is packed. I am going to do my own thing this weekend! Maybe I'll visit my parents, haven't seen them in forever!

~ Moon

The actual dread of hearing and seeing SD19 is not something I want to deal with this weekend. I am at a hotel close to work. DH called last night and today, like everything was hunky dory. Right about now he is getting home and I am not there. He will be calling or texting soon. I will tell him I need a clean space, a bed to myself with no snoring and some time to unwind.

Hey if SD19 can go buy a hedgehog after we said NO, surely a grown woman who needs a break can take a few days off from StepLife, right? I am loving the quiet and the bliss already........Deep breath.......and.......release..........ahhhhhhhh

~ Moon

Exactly, STers! I will tell him I am feeling disrespected that he chose a hedgehog over me, and I feel I have been put on the back burner. I will tell him I need time to think.

Hopefully he'll wise up and tell me NO hedgehog this summer first. Because THAT is what I am going to tell HIM.

It's ME or the hedgehog. The marriage needs to come first!

~ SuperMoon

Thanks everyone, so much! Yes, My4, I agree with the semantics, "You have disrespected ME." I will certainly say it that way. Makes perfect sense, so TY. DH finally texted.

DH: Are you almost home?
Moon: No, I won't be home tonight.
DH: Whut?
Moon: I'm taking a breather to clear my head. I think we could use it. Just please feed the pups.
DH: Well where are you?
Moon: At a hotel.

Then this.........!?

DH: Ok baby. Recharge. Get a good nights sleep. I love you! MUAH!
Then he sent me a picture of one of the dogs, laying on my side of the bed, saying "Someone misses you." Then he told me he went to Walmart and made chicken for dinner.

?!?!?!!?!?!??!##$##%#^#$@$# :? :? :? :? :?

I just replied, "OK."

I think when he comes to understand that I will not be home until after work on Monday (i.e. when SD19 POS is back at school), it will hit him. Right now he is just happy to have his DDs around, pups, NCAA games to watch and he is chillin'. But it will hit him. I'm sure he thinks I will be away just for tonight. I have some good lines from this post that I am going to use. I will tell him there is no more arguing. Hedgehog stays away.

~ Moon

Thanks, kmetz! These SDs will never launch. SD19 will be in a padded room after she burns through all of her money. At least she'll be out of my home. SD13 thinks she will get into college by just "filling out an application," become an engineer, and no way does she have that willpower or the smarts to tackle that kind of career. One can dream, right?

~ Moon

DH texted and asked if I was coming home today? I said I wasn't, that I needed time to clear my head. Then he called me and started small talk, being all nice to me. I finally said, "All things aside, DH, I am in a hotel this weekend because you chose a hedgehog over our marriage and I feel like dirt. I miss my own bed and my dogs (although I slept like a baby here )." I asked him to please take the opportunity today to speak with SD19 about the situation. I said that he and SD19 created this problem and they would have to fix it, not me.

I said that I am stable with a home and a permanent FT job, where I have been for years. SD19 lives at school for most of the year, with us for about 4 months and she likes to travel around a lot and vacation. She seems to be more flexible. (In other words, she is not welcome in my home, but I didn't say that.) I said she has two PT jobs, and she can find others. She has a lot more opportunities than I do right now in life because of her flexibility. He got what I meant.

SD19 is just such a juvenile whuss that it's pathetic. She is as needy as the damn SDog. I only stated the above things to DH about SD19 being flexible because I KNOW she will not give up that hedgehog, so she needs to figure out how to stay with the animal and NOT be in my home at the same time. In my mind, she made the choice to buy the damn thing, and now it's time to pay the consequences. DH keeps trying to deflect the mistake onto himself, but NO. I am standing my ground! If the skid is already away at school for most of the year, she can launch. She can launch early! I didn't say that to DH, though. Go work at the beach for the summer like you wanted to after HS or something, just stay out of my home.

SD19 is not motivated because she thinks she can keep falling back on DH. She has the same job that she got her junior year in HS and makes minimum wage. She can take those "skills" anywhere and get anther PT job. Thing is, she's too lazy to put forth the effort to look. It's almost time for her to be gone permanently from my home. DH can go visit her at HER home, or meet her near school for dinner etc. It's on his way to work. That would make life so much easier and maybe we'd even get along seeing her at holidays and such. I still have dork SD13 to deal with, so SD19 needs to start spreading her wings so I can get SD13 Go for Launch, as well. LOL

OK, I'm going to go buy some gourmet cupcakes. LOL

~ Moon

I'm sure DH thinks that I will be home Sunday, for sure. I'm going to go see my mother tomorrow, something I haven't done in awhile. I have this room booked through Monday morning, and I will have a nice short commute to work. DH will have to do the Sunday laundry to get his work clothes ready for the week. I won't be around.

If what I have done by being away this weekend doesn't speak volumes enough, then I just don't know what I'll do. I'll have to scream NO at the top of my lungs at DH and SD19. I have been tolerant, I have compromised and I have been quiet, all the while biting my tongue except for on a few rare occasions.

Can't SD19 figure out the house is not her home? That she feels strangely because she is away at school most of the time? Also because when she is there she does ZERO to contribute? I am making it my mission to not see her again for a long while. Let her go mooch off of her friends or move to the beach when the semester is over. You have a trust fund that can be used for school, you skidiot (DH is an idiot, too), so RENT an apartment near school! Casually throw in a few more months at the beginning of the lease to start renting in June and get through the summer already! How moronic is SD19's and DH's way of thinking?

I have all but said to DH that I don't want to see his daughter. He knows she's a pain in the ass. A friend of mine said I should start being super sweet to DH and bring him around to favor me more. That way, when there is a dilemma, he's more likely to be in my corner, rather than SD19's. I don't know about that. I've been pretty nice for awhile......I think time is up.

Now I am debating whether or not to go to DH's sister's for Easter, like we always do. Campus is right near SIL's house, so we pick up SD19 and BoyF on the way. All they do is sit there and text the entire time. It makes my blood boil. I think I may stay home. I'll be due for another day off by then, right? It will be in my home next time! DH's family can wonder where I am........ }:)

~ Moon

Hi My4~ You wrote about what SD could get out of DH. Funny you say that. DH texted that SD19 broke her phone and next thing I know there is over $300 charged to Best Buy from our bank account!! Then I see an INCOMING transfer from what I think is SD's savings account. DH made her pay $300 for the phone upgrade. Earlier today when DH texted he was taking SD19 phone shopping, I wrote back "Of course" after he said she dropped her phone and cracked it. He didn't say anything about SD19 paying for the phone....Funny, now it looks like we've been reimbursed!

Also, DH texted earlier tonight, saying he was watching sports with the pups. Gee, where is poor little lonely SD19 who was crying the blues on the phone earlier this week? I have a feeling she had her crack parked on my couch and wasn't even hanging with DH. Sounds like he was up in the bedroom.

I'm so glad I wasn't home. SD13 forgot her epipen when she went to a birthday party and the mom had to drive her back bwahahahaha before they went to the movies. The mom also wanted the girls to bring a purse so they could carry in a drink to the movie theater. SD13 identifies as a boy, so I'm sure she didn't have a purse on her. She also didn't shower for 4 days, even with a day off school Friday and it was that time of the month.

So frikkin glad I wasn't home this weekend. Too much nastiness!

~ Moon

Well put, osjesus. I won't be seeing him untilMonday night at the earliest. I'm sure he'll text again today, asking when I'll be home tonight. I'll either say, "When the hedgehog is gone," or "Monday after work." The next time that SD19 wants/tries to bring the hedgehog home, guess who isn't leaving?

I took one for the team this weekend, so to speak, and it also helped me clear my head. SD19 and DH's problem, THEY need to fix it. I'm not leaving my home again! They can go get the hotel next time, like everyone suggested.

Spoke to my mother at length yesterday about all of the drama. She told me to let the hedgehog out of the cage and let the dogs have at it. LOL She also said to call the college campus and report her for having an animal in the dorm room! I still have that ammo, yes, I do. }:)

Allyskoo, said it well here earlier....In a marriage, if one person wants one thing and the other says "No," the "No," wins. I have to remember that one, too. Thanks, Allyskoo, it makes perfect sense. Why put the burden on your partner and make them uncomfortable in a marriage with something they don't like or want? I have done that lots of times with the finances. DH would want another laptop and I would tell him the first one isn't paid off yet, and what's wrong with the first one anyway? I would always make it work, though. He just got his third laptop in 12 months two weeks ago. I think I'll take that money out of savings to pay for it. The savings is there from me being frugal with the disbursements we received from the skids' trusts. I like to have it there as emergency money.

I guess DH needing that laptop so badly is an emergency.

~ Moon

I spent the afternoon with my mother today. Family drama regarding my Gma (mom's mother), because Gma's husband passed last weekend. Gma isn't taking it well, and who would? Gma's husband was an ass to her but still, she is overwhelmed and got herself to the hospital. I think she is having major panic attacks, so hopefully they can calm her down and give her some TLC.

DH texted me today at 3pm, asking when he would see me? I said Monday after work I would be home. He was all "Ok, baby! I love you!" Grrrrrr........not good. This stuff needs to sink in with him.

So, DH just called a little while ago, all nice and chipper. I was tired and didn't sound so great. The conversation turned to him having a talk with the SDs. I feel like they are all ganging up on me, SDs crying "Poor me, why don't I get my way? I shouldn't have consequences!" DH thinks that maybe SD19 is bipolar and needs therapy for help (DING FUCKING DING, DH)! SD19 is overwhelmed with school. I wanted to tell him "I told you so" but instead I agreed and said it can't do anything but help her, to get therapy or whatever it is that she needs. Fucking drama queen. But wait, there's more! }:)

DH hates that I stepped in before SD19 went back to school and put her in her place when she didn't clean her room. He says "I just added fuel to the fire." (BPD anyone?!?!?!) I told him that SD19 doesn't like to be asked to do anything, doesn't like being told No and has anger issues. I told him I know my delivery gets harsh, on the RARE occasions that I intervene, but it puts SD19 in her place. I told DH I refuse to be disrespected in my own home anymore! DH started getting defensive with me and putting me down, he was rude during the entire rest of our conversation, saying "You need work, Moon! Everything is fine as long as we all do it YOUR way."

I stood my ground and told him that I am sick and tired of SD13 "forgetting to take showers for 5 days when she's on her period, not doing homework and not being responsible." I also told him that "Yes, I go off the handle when SD19 back talks you because I want to stick up for you and NO ONE should ever talk to a parent like that!" DH proceeded to tell me he could take care of himself with his kids (FAIL DH). He then went so far as to sarcastically ask me to name 5 nice things abut SD19, which I did. Pathetic, I know, but he just wants to make me out as the root of everyone's problems! Nice to have SM the scapegoat around! :O

I told him that he would have to handle SD19 and step up more if he didn't want me stepping in. He actually wants me to leave the SDs alone and let him handle it totally on his own! Um, god luck with that one, DH! I reminded him that he is constantly traveling and is never around. I also told him that I could put on my happy face and continue to be pleasant with the SDs. BUT!! I would NOT tolerate SD19 being moody, rude, full of attitude, disrespectful and defiant in our home! I told him we all walk on eggshells around her because she snaps at the drop of a hat. I told him only SHE can change herself and she is old enough to work on that. She is going out into the world soon and things aren't always going to go her way. (This skid is having SERIOUS growing pains! Waaaaahhh!!)

Then DH quietly said that SD19 was going to have to find a solution to the hedgehog situation. Yep, I still don't believe it. I told him she can get her own place then and do anything she wants! DH went off on me, saying SD19 can't afford to pay for an apartment and go to school full time. I told him she has a TRUST-FUCKING-FUND that she can use! DH yelled back that it's only for education! I explained again that rather than putting her in a shitty dorm each semester with trust fund money, that he can get an apartment near campus with trust fund money!!!

OMG when will it sink the fuck in?!?!?!?! :jawdrop:

I think he is freaking out because his big baby of an SD19 is whining and crying because she has to suffer consequences on something pretty major. DH can't save her on this one! DH even said he is thinking of getting therapy for himself and I said that's great, let me know if you need me to be there. He said he can't take this, being in the middle. Hey!!! It's called parenting, DH, for the first time you have to hold your balls and man up to your defiant, juvenile, WHINING skid! Then he goes on to say I'm picking on SD13 and not being sensitive to her wanting to be a boy. He went so far as to say I made fun of her "boy name." Oh hell no.

WE DON'T EVEN USE HER BOY NAME BECAUSE DH TOLD THE SCHOOL WE WOULD WAIT UNTIL THE FALL WHEN SHE STARTS HS, AND SHE CAN USE HER BOY NAME THEN!!!!! He even said he would still always call her by her girl name.

DH couldn't give me an example from SD13, about how I am picking on her. I think everyone is just backing me into a corner. I told DH that I get frustrated with SD13 when she doesn't shower for days on end when she's on her period, she doesn't brush her teeth and doesn't take her allergy pill. She also doesn't do her homework. I asked DH again for the umpteenth time since last fall to make that POS skid shower every other night. I told him he doesn't monitor her or ask her what's going on. That's on HIM as a parent to do. I told him if he could just PLEASE start with the showers, that would be great!

I told DH that SD19 needs to work heavily on improving her attitude and he asked why I couldn't extend an olive branch? **FOR WHAT, DH?** She needs to get those little voices out of her head and quit playing the poor me game! I told him she is pissed that BM is gone and that she, SD19 isn't in control. Her not being in control makes her anxious. I told DH that it isn't SD19's place to control DH and I in our home with her attitude and demands!! I'm supposed to extend an olive branch because her feelings are hurt and nobody pays attention to a 19yo baby POS entitled brat? (Well, I didn't say that.....) Instead I said that I could put on my happy face and be pleasant around the house, but SD19 needs to LOSE the attitude and disrespect in my home! I told him I have bitten my tongue plenty of times over the years, esp over the past two!!!! DH says to just let it slide, and it rolls off of him!!

THAT is precisely the problem, DH!! You don't teach your snot daughter any manners or respect! I don't want an attitude in my house from a 19yo who can't handle being told to take her trash downstairs! If she can't handle it then I'm going to go off because it's ASSININE!! Enough already with this POS enabled skid!!!

So, needless to say, DH is having a very difficult time learning to parent. He gave me all of the one-liners: "You've never had kids. You aren't patient enough...." Blah blah.

I told him SD19 acted like this when she was 14 and she hasn't changed one bit since. He actually had no response to that one. I told him that when the four of us are in that house together, HE and I are the adults, and the skids are the children. They need to respect everyone in the family and do as they are told. I told DH I am pretty tolerant with filth and a dirty home, but if we all can't at least respect each other and clean up after ourselves when we make a mess, then what is there?

Oh dear God, this is hysterical!!! WHEW! Thanks for the vent!!!

~ Moon

That may very well be true. At least he spoke with the SDs about their behavior, and he basically said that it's SD19's problem to figure out what to do with the hedgehog.

It's a start.

So 20 minutes after my lovely conversation with DH last night, he sends me a text: "Love you baby! Sleep good! Muah!" WTF? I am confused and didn't reply. DH called me this morning and REALLY apologized to me. I mean REALLY apologized for being an ASS. (Progress here, people!)

DH said that SD19 is all bent out of shape and anxious about chosing her major. She is a sophomore and just changed her major this semester. From Biology to some eco-something or other save the planet major. I agree with Rags, if you want to earn a decent living after starting just out of college, most people need to fall back on the math, science and computer science fields. LOL YSD13 wants to design video games, Rags! Bwahahahah! Anyway, that's another story.

DH went on to say that he needs to find a REAL therapist for SD19 because she is losing it. (No, REALLY?!?) I empathized a little by saying I had my first panic attacks junior year in college. Granted, I got the flu during finals week and freaked myself out, but I got through it. This is where DH will have to give SD19 a few suggestions and let her take care of herself on her own. The last thing I need is some big production of her coming home every week to see a therapist and staying over. She needs to utilize the campus support system and get herself (her HEAD) checked out.

Sounds like DH is coming around and agrees that SD19 is cuckoo for cocoa puffs! Yay! I keep asking him if I have been unreasonable with anything I have brought up concerning the skids? He keeps saying "No."

He missed having me around this weekend, he said. I told him I was hoping that the breather would get us to talking about the real issues with these skids, so that we could tackle them TOGETHER. Sounds like its going to be good here for awhile with more support from DH. After all, it's not up to me to raise his kids more than he does.

Mission accomplished and no stinkin' hedgehog in my home!!!! Stay tuned......

~ Moon