SD19 Does Whatever the Hell She Wants
Yesterday I yelled at DH at the top of my lungs as we were driving through the mall parking lot.
I have never been so pissed in my life! Turns out SD19 went against our wishes and got a hedgehog when she went back to school! I asked DH how he knew and he said he'd seen pics all over Facebook. I asked if he had said/texted anything to her about it. He hasn't. I started yelling more and more loudly, fire leaping from my tongue. I said everything that I had been holding in forever. It was all true, and he needed to hear it. He was two feet away from me in the car and he looked at me in shock because I just wouldn't shut up.
1) You are a Disney Dad who can't say NO to your kids and you feel guilty because BM is dead!
2) SD19 is an entitled, enabled, bitch to me!
3) She is rude and respects no one in the house, not even you or SD13!
4) She doesn't like to be told no and doesn't do what's asked of her!
*DH: Oh you just don't like her, you'll never like her. (See above, DH!)
5) She needs to be in a PADDED ROOM and on anti-depressants! She needs to be in therapy!
6) SD19 thinks all I did was "bicker" at her over Christmas break, when I didn't even talk to her and kept a polite distance!
7) We both asked her to clean the trash from her room before returning to college and she threw a tantrum and had a meltdown!
8. You haven't discussed the hedgehog with her because you don't want to hear her bitch!
9) My bitching will be a lot worse than any crap you get from her! Do you want that every day?
I pounded my fist furiously on the center console of the car a half dozen times andDH's jaw dropped open.
You are my best friend, DH. I love you, and because you don't parent SD19 I have to resort to YELLING at you. I have never yelled at you in my life! But you never HEAR me! You never HEAR me!! WHY DON'T YOU HEAR ME?!?!? Ahhhhhhhhhh!
DH parked and went into the mall to pick-up my anniversary/Valentine's day gift, a gorgeous right-hand ring. Well shit.
I didn't talk to him for hours yesterday afternoon. I left the ring in the car. I tried to discuss things again last night and he stormed out of the room! I told him it had to be dealt with, that SD19 is a master manipulator and won't listen to anyone. I told him she's old enough to be out on her own. That she doesn't clean for crap and the entire upstairs will reek of a dirty hedgehog cage from across the hall. Her room stinks NOW because she needs a new pillow and hasn't washed her sheets since the summer!
DH: Well, she's only here for 3 months....
I told DH that things that didn't matter to him might actually matter to me. I am not him! I have health issues, I have a sensitive nose and I don't like coming home to filth and rank shit in my house. I told him everything SD19 touches turns to shit by becoming, dirty, breaking or disappearing. He tried to say all of the money in our savings was because of her. No, DH, it's money that BM left by way of the skids and it's for family expenses. I just looked at our savings account from 2011 forward and a lot of the money saved which allowed D to buy what he wanted when he wanted it was available because I am a financial genius. I work with numbers for a living and furthermore, I am a woman, so I don't miss one damn detail. Nada.
Fuck me. I have been looking at apartments online that are almost as much as our mortgage, down near where I work. If I leave, I'm living LARGE. No commute, no lazy parenting, no skids.
No dogs, either, and that tears at my heart. Terribly. It would cost a shitload to set me up somewhere else, even for a month-to-month when SD19 is home, but it's doable. I just don't think I should be run out of my home by a bitch of a mini-wife. I'm certain she'll always get her way. Maybe I can move out temporarily while she's here and enjoy my summers and holidays. Then DH would see how much I really do!
Just UGH!! A "shitty" week with SD13 crapping all over the toilets like a 2yo, and now this shit with SD19 doing what she does best -- not listening to anyone and getting that damn hedgehog. I hope her "friends" think she's cool now. Desperate bitch, grow up.