Sd8 told BM
DH very rarely disciplines SD8. He "talks" to her about what she did wrong. Needless to say that does not work. Most of the time she does whatever she wants. I have really done well with ignoring these things that used to drive me crazy and make me angry. Recently DH popped SD8 on the back of her head. She was really out of control, and she actually screamed at him. It was the first time she had done this, and I think he was so surprised that he reacted to it by popping her. Now he did not knock her to the ground, or smack the crap out of her... she did not have a concussion or traumatic brain injury...but he did scare the living daylights out of her. (Which IMHO is exactly what she needed) So what does she do? She goes to BM and tells her that daddy hit her. OMG So now BM, who really couldn't care less about SD8 (wanted to give her up for adoption when she was born) is breathing down DH's back. He has full custody and she is threatening this and that. My concern is that DH will never even try to discipline SD8 again after all this. Any thoughts? SD8's behavior is and has been pretty good as long as she is doing exactly what she wants....it's when you tell her no that the problems start. In my mind this will only make things much worse with her because she knows she can control this now.