Not even prego and already worried
I guess it's normal for mom's to be to worry. Worry about what will happen, will the baby be ok, will we have the money we need, how will life will change for everyone and things like that. But I think stepmothers have added worry. Mine is soon to be 8, and an all the time pain. DH and I really want to have kids. He has one, I have none. We were married in May, and are working on it every spare minute! We are both very excited. SD8 doesn't know about our plans. I don't think it's any of her business at this point, and she certainly doesn't get a say in those kinds of decisions so why would we tell her. I'm not even pregnant yet.
Last weekend we went to my parents house, like we do every weekend. My siblings and their kids were all there. SD8 is older than all of my nieces and nephews by 3 years. So you can imagine my embarrassment when she was fighting with my 5 year old nephew. Fighting over a toy that he brought from his house. She was literally on top of him, trying to pry it out of his hands. Later the same day she took a book away from someone else and was going to rip a page out, until that child's mother saw what was going on and told SD8 to stop and leave the kid alone.
This got me thinking about MY children. God willing we'll start having our own pretty soon, and I can only imagine the things that she will be doing to my own kid. So far SD8 is pretty normal, spoiled, out of control, sassy.... but a baby might just send her over the edge into the world that I read about from some of you and think "thank god that's not me"! I guess I'm a little worried about it. I would talk to DH, but what do I say? "Hey your kid is kind of a brat, and I'm worried what's going to happen with her when we have a kid of our own."? The thought of her holding a baby makes me want to faint! I am just seeing issue after issue that he and I are going to have out before a baby is ever born.
Has anyone treaded these water's before?