How can I disengage at meal time
Meals, as everyone here knows, are always a problem at one point or another. For some Stepmoms it's an issue everyday. That would be me. SD7 is the usual, grose, loud, rude and obnoxious with her food. I FINALLY convinced DH to not allow her to choose what she would eat, and to get her bigger portions than you would feed a 2 year old. Tonight it was subway. You would think that turkey sandwich with nothing but cheese and tomatos was barf on a plate. She picked out what she wanted, and then almost made herself throw up so she wouldn't have to eat it.
DH and I finished and she wasn't even close to done. She spent the whole meal whispering to DH, asking if she could just eat one more bite and be done, or if she could pick the cheese off, or if she could just eat the meat. So we packed up her sandwich and headed home. We stopped on the way and got some fruit from the store, and I told DH DO NOT GO HOME AND LET HER OFF THE HOOK AND GIVE HER FRUIT. SHE NEEDS TO EAT THE SANDWICH.
We got home, she ate about 3 bites, and DH cut her up an apple and let her eat that. Then I said "Well it's bed time, so downstairs little lady." SD7 looked at me like I had just killed her puppy and said, "but I didn't have dessert!" I said "No you didn't and you won't because you didn't finish your dinner when we were eating! That's the Consequence!"
DH gave her a chocolate bar after some hurried whispering from SD7.
So I have to disengage. How can I do that? This behavior drives me crazy. Do I not eat with them? Do I just ignore her? I'm not sure I can do that. And now I'm mad at DH for being such a weak ass.... I just hate the fact that there are never any consequences for anything she does. Help me help myself!