UPDATE: BM Suddenly Being Nice
THERE IT IS. With SS arriving for a visit this weekend, BM is overcommunicating per usual. Usually, when BM has SS, she is radio silent for weeks, sometimes a month. But whenever SS is coming for a visit, BM emails DH 3+ times with useless information in the days leading up to his arrival.
Email #1: BM is required to pay $400 in uninsured medical expenses per year before she can ask DH for reimbursement. She sent DH two medical bills (1 for a peds visit for a stuffy nose and 1 for a peds visit for a cold) totaling just over $120. She was "just letting DH know where she stands on out of pocket expenses so far." BM still has a ways to go to meet that $400 limit, so this was useless information - let us know when you hit that amount.
Email #2: BM was informing DH that her wife is traveling abroad in July for a work trip and "if schedules work" BM will take SS abroad to visit her for an undisclosed amount of time - dates are still to be determined. DH laughed his ass off with this because again, we only get 4 weeks of summer break (in two two week blocks) which has to be exercised before mid-July to not interfere with football. Yet, BM plans to take SS aboard in July, which will cause him to miss... GASP... Football. DH said he is NOT giving up his limited visitation to accommodate this trip if it falls during his parenting time and will again document the double standard that SS can miss football for whatever BM wants/needs, but not for DH.
I reminded DH that last year, right before this exact weekend visit, BM told SS they were taking him to the UK and Italy on two separate trips - one last summer and one for this upcoming spring break. It was all SS could talk about for that entire long weekend visit with us. It made the weekend unbearable. Guess what... The summer trip never happened and the spring break destination was "switched" to Washington DC. SS told us that Washington DC was cooler anyway and he was in full support of the switch (again typical brainwashing from BM). I warned DH that BM has likely told SS about the possibility of this upcoming trip, again, right before this visit, so he will likely be all excited about it and won't be able to focus on our weekend. And all for a trip that likely won't happen. BM has been telling DH for the last 3 years that they are taking SS to Canada after a pick-up (we live an hour from the border) just to let him "step foot in another country" and cross back over. In 3 years and dozens of pick-ups, it has never happened, yet BM continues to remind DH that it *may* happen at some point.