Always In Control
Some of you may recall from my last few posts that BM took SS10 to the ENT due to chronic croup; again something we hadn't heard about until it was a critical issue requiring a specialist, and now is supposedly a major issue, just like the "sensory processing disorder" and the pin-drop sized mark. BM informed DH a week ago that according to the ENT, SS has some esophageal issue and they need to do a throat biopsy and scope. Whatever.
So SS is coming this Saturday for his first two week stint of summer visitation. He will then return to BM for two weeks before coming back to us for a second two week stint. SS is supposed to have this scope at some point in July, after our second stint. Tonight, BM emails DH, letting him know that SS cannot get sick prior to this scope or the ENT will force them to reschedule. She said "I'm not suggesting that SS needs to quarantine during your visitation, since I'm sure you will want to visit family, but you need to be more cautious than normal." This is rich coming from unvaccinated BM who has taken no precautions during this pandemic, compared to us who are fully vaccinated and boostered. DH responds that we are not changing our plans, but will keep it in mind. Then BM sends a second email that after pick-up from our second visitation, they are taking SS on vacation in our state for 5 days with family and friends... So SS has to be "so careful" with us during our visitation because of this appointment, but you can take him on vacation with a bunch of people right before this appointment, no issues.
I call bullshit - this has nothing to do with his appointment, this has everything to do with BM trying to control our household and our visitation. She does this every summer, but each time, the tactic is different. Last summer, she claimed physical abuse to try to force her involvement in our household, then she claimed SS needed extra football conditioning that we HAD TO provide during our time, now it's health precautions for an appointment. I'm so over BM. I swear when one plan to get attention from us fails, she goes to Plan B, then Plan C and so on. Won't she ever just give up? I am also so sick of the influx of emails from BM right around visitation time. BM is radio silent all year when she has SS, but the 6 weeks we are supposed to have him, we hear from her daily leading up to pick-up. This woman is legit exhausting.