SD visit postponed
DH was planning to trek out of state to collect non-driving SD22 and sgks and bring them to our home for a visit. This is especially difficult if its just a weekend visit because its a 4.5 hour drive, however I don't mind keeping the visit at just a couple of days. It will now likely happen over Father's Day weekend or some other time in June.
I'm definitely glad to put it off a bit, but DH is absolutely going bonkers wanting to see them. And I understand. But it's hard to sit back and watch this young woman with 2 very small children, seeing she has no job, no ambition, no money and a slacker DH in jail. DH doesn't want to be an enabler, but doesn't want to see them go without necessities. We contribute to sgks, but did much more for 1st sgk...fewer sgks means less sharing and spreading it around. Which brings me to my next idea. SD had previously said she wants DH to take her and Skgs to a particular place for a pricy toy for each of them. I'm thinking of telling DH that we/he should explain that since they have needs, we could help with those purchases and forego the pricy (at least $50 each, bare minimum, up to $100 and SD goes for the max) toys. That doesn't mean we can't get them toys, but something less expensive so we can help meet more needs than wants. I'm trying to be practical and hopefully help SD see that she and Slacker are going to have to take responsibility and do something to support their kids.