Us and SGK is having a 2nd birthday the Sunday after Thanksgiving. Soooo that means a trip to StepLandia.  

We've been asked a few times by oldest SK26 if we are "coming in for Thanksgiving"....if I'm honest I have to tell you I simultaneously bite my tongue to keep from exploding with "why the hell do you, at 26 years old,  not have enough damn sense to comprehend that I do not want to spend a holiday with my husband's exwife, and I suspect he doesn't either" while holding back the urge to vomit at the though of it all.

To further support my suspicions that hubby also does not want to venture on an expedition to StepLandia before the SK's Bday,  he pounced on a Thanksgiving invitation from my oldest DS23. The distance is about the same but in opposite directions,  so it's a road trip, either way. But I'm grateful we'll be going to DS's!  

We will be going to StepLandia after that, probably Saturday for the birthday party on Sunday.  This will be tense, as SD22's husband's (white trash!) Was arrested and charged with multiple felonies recently....lots of them. Theft, mainly. When this happened,  DH blew up and told SD22 exactly what he thought about him and that he won't work and won't take care of her, their child or the baby that's on the way. SD22's alleged felonies will be there, with his trashy family.  My DH says that's not the time or place for drama, so hopefully we can avoid it for SK's sake.

Of course,  BM will be there. I haven't posted her latest shenanigans....SK was in a baby pageant recently and BM sent DH a text with pictures...one of her holding SK. I saw it and walked away. I laughed when I got to the kitchen and he asked me why I was laughing and I said "nothing"...then I went back to the living room and had him pull up the picture again. I said "I'm laughing at that....it's inappropriate.  But it means you can have her if you want her."  He shook his head, said I was reading into things...and I told him "OK, but I'm a woman and I know woman."  He said SD22 probably sent it because she's the one that took the picture.  I said ok and walked away laughing.  I've got to be above the BS. 

On to SD22'S drama with her alleged felon ....she has been standing by her man for now. I think all of us are hopeful that she will wake up when he goes to jail.  After consulting with DH,  I bought a few books for SD22,  but I won't give them to her until after he's behind bars, that way he won't see them.  They're just some self esteem boosters. Despite the problems and issues,  I hate to see her life so royally screwed up. She has no job, no ambitions and no skills. She and her child live with BM and another baby will be here in a few months. As long as they don't want to move in with us, BM can do whatever she wants.

My plan is to emulate my mother's charm and grace. I will be getting a new outfit for the occasion and I will be as sweet as sugar, as I hang on my adoring DH's arm.  If the trashy people get out of line,  they will get a look up and down before I turn on my heels and walk away.

Any other words or wisdom?