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CLOSURE

jojo68's picture

SD18 moved out a couple months ago. Our home has been peaceful. My stress level has diminished. I quit feeling like a prisoner in my own home but something was still missing. Closure from the years of mental abuse that she has put me through or I should say that I allowed her to put me through. Couple days ago she came over to our home to do her laundry all while have a mental episode because her father wouldn't let her use his vehicle (long story short she has proven she is not responsible enough to drive). Instead of just coming to him and asking him, she text him...one text after the other like a crazy person and then had the nerve to start up with the" you don't love me crap" after all the hell she has put him through over the years. She has done this many times before but this time....I snapped. I completely lost my S*it and told her off...10 years of built up anger came out. DH is backing me up.

That is just what I needed to put closure to my relationship with her. I wish her well but I don't want anything to do with her. She knows how I feel and can finally move on and eventually get past this anger that I feel for her. I have never felt such a life sucking emotion as this. I am putting it in God's hands to heal me.

If you all have any extra prayers please send them this way and if anyone has a similar story to tell do tell.

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CLove's picture

I have SD19.5, who a few months after she turned 18, just ghosted us. Never officially moved out, just faound another place to be, leaving all her clothing, and dirt and trash behind. She had been horrible to me, caused much stress and issues in my relationship with now DH.

She even pretended to be ok with us, until recently, when she blasted DH about what a horrible person he was, and how horrible and mean and rude I was. This after did her taxes for free and got her 1400 back. So all this time harboring hatred for me and anger towards DH. They arent really speaking at this time.

I still have so much anger towards her and BM, Toxic Troll. I dont have any techniques because I am in the same boat, except you were able to express your feelings to her, wheras I just told her "we love you (now away with you)", and left it on her. Her choices and her decisions - so she cant play victim, with me being the mean one.

Thats great that DH is backing you. My DH is also having my back, and has said that our marriage is number #1, and if she cant accept it, and if she wants to be angry and push him away, thats her loss.

Of course, when she neded money, she was ok with asking fo $400. Telling him Toxic Trollwas going to kick her out, etc.

jojo68's picture

I fortunately have never had any issue from BM...SD doesn't spend any time with BM and never has since I have been around and that has been over 10 years. Thanks for sharing!

DPW's picture

Sometimes we simply need to "lose our sh*t"... lol

I'm glad that this is providing closure for you!