It's only been a week
Exactly one week into having to deal with OSD by himself SO literally had a break down. It was sad to watch as she fell from grace in his eyes and he could no longer hide in the land of denial.
On top of her behavior, her complete disrespect towards him, he also had to deal with 4 separate phone calls from her teachers. SO would always say out loud when she was being disrespectful and unruly, well at least she is an honors student. Well, not anymore. She is refusing to do her work, which they are being graded on and she is lying to her teachers.
Also, OSD called BM this week because he redirected her and she didnt like it so BM picked her up. OSD truly believes this is teaching him a lesson, but the jokes on her we have had the best week, no one is stressed, no arguments, the other 2 kids YSD and BS are getting along magnificently.
SO also reinforced why I choose to be with him. While he was talking with one of the teachers about OSD, he threw her under the bus and told the teacher that he is sick and tired of her being disrespectful because she doesn't want to follow rules and he is disgusted by the way she talks to me.
On another note BM doesnt like that she is being called out by the teachers for her poor parenting. So in response she is playing the victim and throwing OSD under the bus. The reality is BM let's OSD do whatever she wants without consequence. She also will save her from having to follow rules here and PAS how we are the bad guys and mistreat OSD. But when confronted by another adult she will quickly point the finger at OSD. I dont feel sorry for OSD because she is old enough to understand and recognize this for herself but she still chooses to be with BM because of all the freedom she has there and zero responsibility.
Unfortunately, BM will probably be dropping her off here soon, because although she really doesn't care how OSD acts her BF does and when he has had enough of OSD he puts his foot down and BM drops her right back off. I'm curious to see what happens as SO has mentioned if this continues he is going to give BM custody because she should have to be forced to deal with OSDs behavior if she isnt going to support making her follow rules.