Yesterday progress reports came out. I was fully aware OSD is now failing adding to her compounding issues that both parents find ways to ignore and /or justify as "Normal" teenage behavior.
Last year when OSDs issues began to become problematic I convinced SO to take her to counseling. She went 3x before moving in with BM and they both decided I was the problem.
Fast forward to now and BM cannot control OSD and BMs BF is in the verge of kicking her out because he feels the same way I do. BM much like SO will admit OSDs behavior is problematic but neither will do anything about it or to address it.
Today SO called OSD to address her about her grades. She did her usual routine of not accepting any responsibility and today's excuse was " I am depressed". I can tell you this is not true, that is one of her many convenient excuses she uses to avoid accountability. The truth is she is up on her phone and social media until 4-5am and sleeps all day because neither of her parents comprehend they have the ability to take her phone away.
But I took this situation and ran with it contacting the school counselor with my " concerns" over her statements. OSD being true to from having backed herself in a corner will play this up with the counselor in hopes of not being held accountable for her behavior and poor grades.
Now that the school is involved the the counselor will be meeting with OSD. She has already contacted BM that OSD needs counseling based on reports from her teachers and her attitude and behavior. When the counselor meets with OSD she will either see OSD is having serious behavioral issues. Or she will get some sort of well prepared sob story of OSD about why she is sooo depressed. Either way the school is obligated to push both parents to take OSD for counseling and will follow up to make sure they made an appointment.
All 3 of them need counseling. BM and SO to learn how to parent and OSD because she is spiraling out of control Nothing will change until both her parents start parenting her and stop making excuses or behaving like they are helpless.