Well OSD just got kicked out of the last place she had to go after physically assaulting her mother's cousin. Of course BM doesn't want her now that she did everything she could to make her this way.

OSD is currently at her grandparents. I know this will also not last because they will not put up with her acting out behavior. 

I do not have it in me to deal with both SDs. If OSD comes here SO and my relationship is destined to fail. The stress one SD has on our relationship is damaging enough. It would not survive both of them being here. 

They have once again been abandoned by their mother. No big surprise there. I told SO he needs to be their parent first because they only have him as the constant in their life. 

I told SO he needs to move back with his parents and focus on raising his kids. He will have the support of his mother who they love and respect and they will not have me to target. 

Now that he will have them 24/7 again. It's better he has my home to come to for a break. He can also send YSD here when he needs to seperate SDs. 

I told him I will remain involved and go to counseling with them. But we need to take things one step at a time. 

He was surprisingly understanding of the whole thing. I think it may have put him at ease that I made the decision. He doesn't want to have to pick between me and his kids and he shouldn't have to. 

I do know that I already feel less anxious and more relaxed. I know I will be a better girlfriend to him with the stress of SKs off my shoulders. I know I can tolerate SKs when they are just visitors and will have a better relationship with them.  I do hope things work out between us.