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Wicked stepmo.'s picture

I have had zero contact with OSD in a month, since she left and went to BMs. Prior to that our interaction was minimal. In the last few weeks OSD has been showing SO her true colors posting obnoxious comments directed at me on SOs social media, with BM posting as well playing along. She has been complaining to him about me via text messages. As she has kept doing these things,  which she did prior  which I why I went no contact with her. He is seeing how childish, bitter and vindictive she is. He finally lost it with her, she text him to complain about me again. He responded by telling her she just needs to get over herself.  The rules here aren't going to change, and no matter what she wants or thinks he is not breaking up with me, so she needs to learn to deal with it and he doesn't want to hear about it anymore.  He then sent a text to BM reiterated the same thing. 

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tog redux's picture

Glad your SO is seeing the light!  Takes a few blows to the head to get him there, doesn't it?

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

It is a huge relief.  For a while I was in pins and needles, because he was torn trying to please both of us. I anticipated having to endure a lot more of her crap before he reached his breaking point and saw she was being selfish and manipulative to get her way. I really have to give props to the counselor who basically told him he was damned if he and damned if he didnt with SD. So how does he want to handle it, by letting her be in control and giving her all the power. Or by standing his ground and accept she will respond by trying to hurt him, but hopefully in the end she will learn from it and come back to him with a better attitude or at least knowing she doesnt rule the roost.

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

You are absolutely correct,  some counselors have more issues than those they work with. Trust me I have worked with a lot of these people.  I'm lucky to have made a lot of contact with different professionals through my work and chose this counselor because he has worked with specifically children for the last 40 years.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

When we remove ourselves from the equation, these cowardly and willfully blind fathers get an unobstructed view of their kids' nastiness. Or, they're forced into a one on one relationship, and without us around to hate on, the skid makes Daddee the target instead.

A SM doesn't even have to be very engaged to become the focus of resentment. As an outsider, we are the most convenient target and as long as we're involved, parent and skid don't have to focus on their relationship.