Fed Up
Ugh.....I just get so fed up with crazy BM. Why is she incapable of understanding that she is not wanted in our lives.
She decided that it was appropriate to text my SO at 11:15 Friday night at ask if she could take their BS(4) to a moster truch show. It just drives me nuts. It's never ending. I'm sure she had those tickets earlier that day or possibly a couple of days before and what does she do? Sends a text just before midnight. Why might you ask did she do that? To be constant annoyance in our lives. She just can't get it. SO doesn't want anything to do with her. My SO had to send her text letting her know that she is not to contact him before 10 am and after 8 pm unless it's an emergency, which by the way means she should not be contacting us for two weeks out of the month seeing as how we have the kids.
Can anybody tell me why crazy BM aka Double E would pull this crap? WTH does she get out of it?
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Control....that's what she
Control....that's what she gets out of it. Thats what our BM does too. she will wait until she KNOWS Dh is at work and can't be on the phone and then texts him or calls him. (then bitches when he doesnt answer).
personnally I'd wait until 2 or 3am then text her back....wake her up, or if she's awake let her think that the 2 of you were "busy" maybe putting that thought into her head will make her quit ....
It is my experience that BM's
It is my experience that BM's must be in control. They can't handle anything different. Now, this comment is coming from a control freak, but when it comes to my son and his relationship with his dad, I have learned to let go.
On the other hand, the BM of my Skids is much different. She has called the summer camp we sent the girls to last year, spends hours on the phone texting and talking to the girls (ex. 12 hrs. over a 10 day period), tells them what they can and can't do while they are with us, etc. She responds to DH when she is ready, usually weeks later, claiming she is tooooooo busy to get on the computer, so DH gave up emailing.
Now, the one thing to keep in mind is that they do have reason to discuss and talk, they are coparents of their children. But, if it is being done in a ridiculous way (i.e. calling at ridiculous hours for not much of anything) and abusing the relationship, I would definitely put guidelines on the communication.
That's a good idea. The only
That's a good idea. The only issue is she is a stalker. So any type of communication with she takes as something completely different. We finally had her to where she was starting to leave us alone but then there was a tax issue and my SO had to talk with her several times over the phone and now she's back to having to contact him about stupid things at least once a week in order to just make contact.
Unfortunately for us he can't tell her to leave him alone which is what you're supposed to do with stalkers. So when ever he has to contact her she interprets it as something that it's not and then it takes one to three months to get her back on her chain.