Bullet dodged
With C19 shutting everything down were we live OSS28 and MSS26 were put on furlough. OSS works in the hospitality industry and MSS works in events.
On Monday, the company MSS works for let all of their employees go. He's understandably upset because he loved the job and was good at it but there just aren't going to be any large scale events for the forseeable. OSS's job is still holding on the time being but we'll see what happens.
Thanks goodnes, DH has lept into action to help MSS find another job rather than offer up our place as accommodation. He is sensible enough to realise that we are having a comparatively lovely lockdown and adding a skid plus fiance would not be a great idea.
DH and I are both fairly intovert. I'm working from the study, he's taken over one of the bedrooms as his workspace and we have fun having lunch together and cooking a different meal every night. My local indepdant wine shop delivers so everything is good at the moment. All of this would change if someone(s) else were added to the mix.
DH has got MSS a couple of leads and is helping with his CV. Some of you may say this is too much help but anything that prevents someone having to move in is a good thing.
He's working on OSS too.
So the D in DH is still dear.
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There is nothing wrong with
There is nothing wrong with helping ones kids, even if they are adults. It's the enabling that is a problem.
So, good for your DH for helping but not doling out cash or just moving them in.
Exactly - helping does not
Exactly - helping does not have to equal enabling. Your DH did good.
Even if MSS doesn't get
Even if MSS doesn't get another job, the alternative is not moving in with you! At age 26, I'm sorry but you're on your own, claim jobseekers allowance, housing benefit etc My DH has had SD25 working for him (not living with us though!) for the last year, which ends in August, and after that she'll have to claim unemployment if she doesn't have another job.
I don't think it was too much
I don't think it was too much offering to help look for another job. Like you said, it is keeping him out of your house which is the priority!
Hopefully with unemployment and the addtional funds being received with that he will be ok for a few months too.
My parents helped me out with
My parents helped me out with things well past 26, no issue there. At least he's not rescuing him by moving him right in.
DH and I are kind of enjoying the quarantine, too - lol. This is how we like to live and now it's socially acceptable! (though a hair cut would be great).
I have to admit, I am also
I have to admit, I am also liking the quarantine and I think there are things we can learn from it (for one thing, how it is benefiting the environment).
So glad I taught myself how to cut my own hair years ago (and I buzz DH).
Slight level of irony
There was supposed to be a slight level of irony in the post. There is no way that anyone is moving in unless we are really at the end of the world. And all the UK posters are correct, the social net here should definitely be MSS first step until he's back on his feet. Plus his finance is fully employed and is even getting overtime at the moment.
I so echo everyone on the haircuts. I'd procastranated for too long about going to the hairdresser before the lockdown (stupid in retrospect) and got DH to cut my hair two weeks ago. He actually did a fairly good job especially as he only had kitchen scissors to work with. My hairdresser may be slightly horrified but its good enough for Zoom calls.
DH may have found MSS a serious lead for double the money he was on before. Fingers crossed!
I did the same about
I did the same about procrastinating on a haircut and now my hair is longer than when I was a child. It's driving me crazy. I started cutting some bangs the other day and stopped mid-cut because I knew I couldn't do it.... lol.... now I have two tufts of shorter hair!
I'm toying with allowing DH
I'm toying with allowing DH to cut mine, not quite there yet.
It's pretty ok
But my hair is long and straight so DH didn't have to try to do a stylish cut. He basically just had to make sure it was reasonably straight and came to just below my shoulders.