Missing the Milestones
I won’t lie...my life and marriage have been 100 times better since my OSS21 and MSS16 have been PAS’d out by BM. It’s amazing how much different our house feels now. However, with all good things comes a price.
For the most part municipal DH has gone through the phases of grief over losing his older
sons in his life. They are not good people and frankly he does like them, but loves them because he is their father. He doesn’t mope around and talk about them regularly and he seems to be able to let it go and enjoy his life. At least that is until he sees that he is missing their milestones.
He gets sad when he sees MSS is starting to drive and he isn’t there to help. He misses congratulating MSS on his exceptional baseball game or prom. He aches when he hears (after the fact) that OSS is doing amazing at his internship in college and knows he will not be invited when he graduates next year. These are the times he struggles. And because the next two years will come with Many missed milestones, I feel for DH. He didn’t cause or ask for their estrangement.
So it is just sad that the thing which causes our life and marriage so much happiness can also cause so much pain.
How can I make these times of struggle for DH easier to get through?? Any suggestions?