Tired of this crap
I really do not like my OSS. I honestly think that the feeling is mutual because every time he comes over for DH's visitation he makes snide comments towards me. I know that teenagers can be difficult and have smart mouths however, I just think this kid say things and does things on purpose towards me. For instance, I was in the kitchen last weekend minding my own business and here comes OSS while I am cooking and just starts making his snide comments saying well you should do this or put this ingredient in it and then he says well my mom does this and it's better so you should do it too. I walked away for about a minute to go to the bathroom and here is OSS hovering over my spaghetti sauce trying to pour something in it. I told him to not touch my food and to get out of the kitchen while I am trying to cook.
Then last night he says I hear you are going camping this weekend which my DH must have told him and he says well good luck with that because you don't strike as a person that would know how to camp. Like I said it's always a cut down towards me. I have been just ignoring him for awhile now but I mean when does it stop because I find it very disrespectful and he has been talked about the way he is towards me million of times by my DH.
I know that I have a DH problem because he is a Disney dad but is there anything else that can be done other than ignoring this kid to try to make him stop making disrespectful towards me? I am just at my wit's end and it will only get worse if it is not corrected now. The kid is 15 years old so he knows exactly what he is doing.
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Thanks for the advice you
Thanks for the advice you guys.
Normally I would say ignore,
Normally I would say ignore, but with this obnoxious teen I don't think I'd be able to. I have the wit to slap down any such verbal passive aggression, so I would just give it back to him in shovel loads.
I know that I have a DH
I know that I have a DH problem because he is a Disney dad but is there anything else that can be done other than ignoring this kid to try to make him stop making disrespectful towards me?
Since your H speaking to SS is not working I'd shut his @ss down myself. I'd tell him that whatever he has to say to you to keep it to himself because you're not interested. You don't have the time to entertain his antics and if he's that bored he can go f@ck off....but say it nicely of course
I'd do it each and every time he attempted it. Sometimes these kids don't respond to nice so maybe he'll get the hint if you act like a bitch and are stern. I have a 15 year old son and he damn well knows what he's doing.
Shut that disrespectful ass down!
Once again disengage from SS
If he saids anything about your food, he gets PB&J. For his dinner. Better still he can make it himself and put whatever he wants on it. No taking him anywhere. Or buy him anything. He's now DH total responsibility, either DH does it or it's just does not get done for him.
When he comments about the
When he comments about the sauce..
"well, apparently your dad likes the way I cook the sauce better than the way your mom does"
When he comments about camping... you give him a piercing look and say.
"ooooh SS, you would be SURPRISED at what i am capable of"...
LOL.
Wow you are GOOD!
But youve been at this a while. I was always toungue tied around SD20. But that was in the beginning.
Any time you can use innuendo
Any time you can use innuendo of the fact that you are doing it with their dad... they will stop engaging with you. Lol
"well, apparently your dad
Oh daaammmmnnn. Lol good one
best delivered with that
best delivered with that "knowing" grin.. like.. buddy.. we ain't actually talking about sauce here.
The same with the camping thing.. it should be really a look conveying that you are capable of murdering little snotty stepkids..lol.
Killjoy does this. She
Killjoy does this. She misses doing it to me now because she never has the opportunity anymore. I always wanted to answer back but in the few instances I did she got pouty and told Satan I was mean. The pouty part grossed me out, it was too much to handle.
I should have kept doing it.
"Yeah, SD, I need to be mircomanaged by an idiot who can't find the milk in the fridge."
"Yeah, SD, I need advice from someone who doesn't know how to wipe her own ass."
Art of War
You need to shut this sh!t down yourself obviously, because DH cant/wont.
Its YOUR house, he is the child being supported by you, so feel free to shut him down. Snotty comments that cut you down, well then he doesnt get your wonderful food, or anything from you. When SD20 was snotty to me, I did not give her anything, let her eat anything of mine or use anything of mine.
I love the suggested remarks! If only I had had this when living with SD20. SD13 is always really nice.
What a jerk this kid is - and they know what they are doing too.