Stepford Sister has become just another casualty...
Alas, I feel all is lost with my sister. She has become another casualty to the dysfunction of blended family life. All my reasoning, patience, empathy regarding her situation have come to no avail. So allow me to catch you all up to speed with some bullet points.
Things had been steadily descending into step hell prior to the holidays. Prince Charming's emotionally unstable teen daughter (the cutter) moved in full time with sister and with a barrage of demands. She wanted to paint her room a bright red. Think the Japanese flag red. She wanted to rearrange furniture. Not only in her room, but the house as a whole. She wanted to drop out of school, as she didn't feel "safe" at school. And rather attend online school. She wanted free reign of the house and all the rooms. Even though sister works from home and requires quiet and privacy. This kid is a manipulative little tyrant who lashes out if she is not the center of the universe. I've seen in first hand.
Sister refused to budge on the house issues. But Prince allowed the online schooling. So where is Princess Teen all day? At home... with sister. Catered to by daddykins. Prince is still attempting to wear sister down on the house issues. Despite it being HER house exclusively. Prince contributes NOTHING financially. He buys only groceries for himself and his spawn.
Prior to Christmas Prince and sister took a weekend trip. Prince spent the entire weekend texting Princess Teen. Over 67 texts in one day. But not a single text to his other child, who by all accounts is stable and pleasant. Not one. Sister has indicated that he seems to "resent" stable child as she "does not need him". Huge red flag, but I digress.
Sister questioned Prince about the texts on the drive home. In true Prince fashion he blew his stack. He cannot handle any kind of dissention or debate, about anything. His word is law and he is always right. He must be the original "special snowflake". As they were discussing the situation Prince rolled down the car window, he was driving, and threw the $300 custom ring sister had bought him out the window at 70 mph. (Side bar; Prince insisted on an "engagement ring" for himself after giving sister one. F*cking weird.) Then proceeded to try and pry the engagement ring he gave my sister off her finger and discard it in the same manor. He didn't succeed. Needless to say the rest of the drive was spent in silence.
Upon return Prince moved out but left Princess Teen. I instructed sister to sever all ties. Block, block, block. And insist Princess leave as well. Eventually Princess Teen left and he ceased communication. But alas, since he lives with his parents at 57, it was short lived. He slithered his way back in by Christmas as sister is incapable of halting all communication. I'm beginning to think she is enjoying the drama.
She had another blow up with him last week. And in classic gaslight fashion he flipped it all onto her. She called me in tears and I again, instructed her to drop his ass. This guy to me is an abusive asshole/user and I'm ready to throw down with him. I hate him with the fire of a thousand suns. He has taken an independent, emotionally stable, successful woman and reduced her to a puddle of blubbering tears. I don't even know her.
I tried reaching her all weekend to no avail. Then Monday I received a cryptic text message from her about them "working it out" that was NOT at all in her style and signed with an XO. She has NEVER done this. She always uses emojis. She claimed she would call me the next day. It's now three days later. She still will not answer my calls. I had my son, her nephew, attempt to call her. Me foolishly thinking she would answer a 13 yo's call at 8:30 pm on a Wednesday. NOPE. My parents cannot reach her either.
I'm at a loss. Without calling the police or driving to her city (an hour away) to do a welfare check, I'm powerless. And seeing as I have a job, children, and elderly parents to tend to (side note: mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in late October and sister has been ZERO help) she's way down the line.
I do not know what is left to do. I have tried and tried to get through to her and it is not working. This guy is bad news and I want to five finger monkey nut punch him into another time zone. He's already isolated her. He's abusing her emotionally and I feel something physical is just around the bend. Just wanted to update all of you who have been following my blogs.
Oh, and as a kicker, I got sister a really nice set of ceramic kitchen knives for Christmas. Prince would now allow her to use them or even take them out of the package. He has locked up all "sharp" objects as Princess Teen has a propensity to cut herself when she feels stressed or "unsafe" (code for not getting her way). He's even confiscated the tweezers. My sister had to hider her tweezers/razors in her car because Prince was going to confiscate them too.