Been a while since I have been here. Totally had disengaged until last week, when I couldn't help myself----and this happened with only a couple more weeks when my YSD turns 18. She put a "F*** War" bumper sticker on her car. I yanked it off---I mean come on, I have three kids under 10 still in the house, who don't need to read that stuff. I am all for freedom of speech, but you don't have to be vulgar to get your point across.
DH didn't think I should have reacted so quickely. Oh well, the deed was done.
We are down to 12 days til 18. SD will still stay here until she graduates, if she can mind her P's and Q's. The girl actually thought she shouldn't have to do any chores once she turned 18 :jawdrop: DH had a nice long chat with her about what things will look like once she is an adult(LOL) and still living here---still have chores, still have to tell us where you are going out of common courtesy, still respect house rules, etc..... The good news is, if she doesn't follow our house rules, DH has no problem telling her to leave. Our family has been through way too much to deal with her attitude for more than we have to.
No surprise, but she has decided to get all kinds of tattoos for her birthday and piercings galore, plus dye her hair black and pink, I guess in an attempt to shock us. Whatever, as long as you cover em up if asked because they are crude, vulgar, offensive or whatever else. And she goes from wanting to be an EMT to now becoming a bartender of tattoo artist. It's your life, if you want to go the hard route, don't come crying to us later when we have tried to support you to go to school (trade or college) to better yourself and not have to work so hard for your money.
My time here will be less and less after she moves out, as YSD has been a thorn in EVERYONE's side for the past 4 years and caused a lot of chaos. I feel fortunate the my DH has stood by my decision, as I have his, and realizes that he will probably have to cut ties with her in order to keep our family sane.