How do you deal with overweight skids with regards to meals and snacks?
My SD is 13 going to be 14 next month. She is currently wearing size 16 women's pants and size large women's shirts (She around 5'3).
Both Skids were pretty cubby when they were younger. They both had growth spurts (SS's hasn't stopped yet) and lost a lot of weight.
Now, SD has stated gaining weight again.
A month ago, we took the kids to Steak and Shake because DH had been wanting to go and we were out and about. So, why not.
DH, SS and SD all three order double cheese burgers, fries and large shakes. I have a regular cheese burger, fries and water. Later that night, I told DH that I didn't want to say anything to SD because I didn't feel like it was my place, but she is getting pretty overweight. DH has a pretty physical job that keeps him in great shape and SS is growing like a weed and super skinny. SS is an eating machine right now. SD shouldn't be eating like they are, especially since she literally doesn't get ANY exercise. The only time she isn't laying on her bed at our house is when she is eating or we make her go somewhere with us. DH said "We just have to lead by example" ???? Ok what the hell does that mean.
Then this past weekend, DH and I were out shopping late on Fri night and decided to just grab some fast food. We ordered 4 meals and they ended up giving up 5 extra medium fries. We didn't realize because we got the food to go and didn't open the bags until we got home. Anyway, DH allows SD to eat her food plus two extra orders to fries. The next day was SS's birthday and she had a large slice of cake and ice cream. Grandpa couldn’t finish his cake and SD eat that too.
Luckily, at our house, fast food is a rare treat. It just happened that two weeks in a row that we had her we had fast food. I cook every night and make breakfast and lunch on the weekends. But even then she always has seconds. How do you tell a kid no to seconds?
I was super skinny a kid (only weighed 98lbs when I was 18) but since my mid 20's I have struggled with my weight. I don't want SD to have a life time of weight issues, but I also don't want to the be the only person in her life restricting food. DH says to me that she's getting fat while at the same time giving her 3 orders of French fries????
Has anyone dealt with skids and weight problems. Do you just sit back and watch the kid get fatter and fatter? Is it ok to tell her she can't have a double cheeseburger and large shake but allow SS to because he is skinny and she is fat. Doesn't seem right.