Wow, it's been a very long time since I visited this site but that's mostly due to my work blocking social media/blogging sites and Dh and I have a rule where we try to power down when we're both home together. Right now though, I'm happy to report that I'm home on maternity leave as I just had DD number 2 on 8/2
Anyway, the advice I'm asking for is somewhat step related and involves MIL. So if anyone reading remembers me, I have a VERY overbearing MIL who is super needy. She's calmed down over the years but it seems that since I've had DD number 2, she's been obsessed with us and picking up Ddalmost 3 and Ss8. Up until this past Sunday she's called me literally every single day for about 2 weeks (I believe she's upset with me right now because she asked to take the kids out but i declined because we had plans). She doesn't really call for any reason other than to complain about work or to ask when we're going to visit her and other no reason things. I dont know if it's my hormones (i'm 2 months pp so i dont even know if that's still an excuse) but am I wrong to be irritated? Right after I had DD she was calling Dh everyday asking when we were going to visit her and spend time with her (I had just had csection).
Anyway, that aside, My biggest irritation right now, and please tel me if i'm wrong, is that she's been calling every Friday to ask to take our children out for ice cream. I dont mind much but this MIL is always trying to create "tradition" type stuff with us. Like before she was calling every thursday asking us to come to dinner and if we said no she'd have a tantrum about how we never come to see her. I love that she wants to be apart of our lives but every weekend seems excessive and if we tell her no she throws a fit. For example, my grandmother from another state came to visit for the first time in 2 years, this is my Dd's great grandmother, and MIL called to ask to take them for ice cream and Dh told her no, so then she was like "well can i pick them up saturday for a carnival?" and Dh said no once again and gently reminded her that my family was in town and she says "I know that! I want to see my grandkids too!" with an attitude. Dh brushed her off and hung up. I was furious though because like i said above, she had called me every day that week questioning about who was coming and where they were staying etc. so she knew they were here yet she still called trying to pick them up. Am i wrong for being upset? Another thing that bothers me, is that she'll ask to pick them but she'll also ask if Ss is here for the weekend and if he's not she'll say "ok, well next time" and doesn't offer to take Dd who is almost 3. This is her bio granddaughter. One thing to add, this MIL literally lives 10 min from us but she is constantly asking us to go over. She has this attitude of "i'm the mom so you need to come see me" about stuff so she rarely comes over. What are your thoughts. Am I wrong for being bugged? I've thought maybe just because I'm alone all day with my thoughts that I'm overthinking things but I don't know...