Ladyface! I always loved your responses I'm glad to hear from someone else that this would annoy them. My husband says he feels sorry for her and in turn makes me feel like I'm overreacting. Omg, I have started to ignore her calls but she'll keep calling ad calling and leaving voicemails asking for a call back and when I finally do call her back because I feel bad, she'll make comments like "wow you must have had a long nap" or she'll straight up say "Why did it take you so long to call me back?" It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to deal with her. She usually talks like this to Dh and if he says anything she'll start talking over him about how he needs to respect her because "she's the mom" it's so annoying.

Thank you! Yes, she does try to act like she's immediate family. I don't think she understands that she's not. I think my biggest frustration is that I feel like this is my time to create traditions with my children. I feel like she had her 3 kids and had those traditions and she needs to let go of the idea of having mom/child traditions with her grandkids. I dont have an issue with her taking them occasionally to do things but this past weekend is like the 4th weekend in a row that she's asked so I know where she's going with this. Am I wrong to have that outlook?

I see what you're saying about taking a toddler that makes sense. I'm waiting to see what happens in the future because she's already shown a tons of favoritism toward Ss and I keep telling myself that it's the age difference but I guess time will only tell.

I think you're right, to show her what never come over looks like. We haven't visited in a while but I don't know if she'll even understand what's happening. She's just so negative it's hard to be around. I kid you not, everytime she calls I'll ask "hi how are you" and it's always, "terrible!" "sigh, i'm ok" "oh, i'm alright i guess" it's exhausting.

Thank you!!! Surprisingly she's a great sleeper! I'm thankful. We had some issues at first but I've mastered nursing while laying down and since then, things have been smooth sailing. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and although it was pretty rough at first, i've got the hang of it and things have been great!

Thank you!

You are right, Dh does do a lot. He's learned a lot over the years and has recognized how outrageous she can be. It just sucks because she likes to ask him and when he says no, she then starts calling me and pretends she never spoke to him about it. Thankfully though, he's started saying "i'll talk to msg and call you back" and then will tell her no.

MIL is like that but only with Ss8. She will take him out and do things with them and no include all the kids but if he cannot go she will decline. Dh had to get on her case because for xmas she wanted to buy the kids a trampoline. Dd2 birthday is in early December and so she told Dh she was not going to buy Dd a birthday gift because she said that the trampoline was expensive and that Dd's birthday present would be bundled into xmas present. Dh said that was fine but that he didn't want her to get a birthday gift for Ss either (his bday is in July) and she hit the roof. She said that it wasn't fair because Dd's birthday was in december and since it's so close DD wouldn't even know but that since Ss's bday is in JUly it wasn't fair to him? it was all strange. Dh told her what she was trying to do wasn't fair. So she basically does way more for Ss, I see it all he time.