Sorta O/T: Marriage counseling
I’ll preface this with I’ve always wanted us to go to marriage counseling, starting years ago.
I reached my proverbial tipping point a couple weeks ago and insisted that we go - preferably before the end of the year and especially before I’m forced to engage with DH’s parents on Christmas.
I hopped on Good Therapy, found a local therapist that met our crazy schedule needs and specialized in high conflict marriage counseling. I called and made an appointment.
Therapist wanted to do a solo appt each, with the third appointment being our first couple session.
Today was the my appointment. DH’s is tomorrow.
I laid it all out there: Our marital issues in regards to DH’s lack of transparency; DH’s defensiveness regarding all the toxicity and dysfunction in regards to his parent’s behavior and unhealthy attachment to skid and alliance with BM; and just skid issues in general like the court order not being complied to (with the help of his parents).
Towards the end of my appointment, the therapist tells me she’s not going to sugarcoat anything, that she’ll try her hardest to help save my marriage, but that I should inevitably just divorce DH.
With a DH who is in the fog and extremely defensive in regards to how HCBM is dealt with, and his super dysfunctional parents and their involvement, who are vehemently against attending family therapy with us, that I should just start socking away money and make an exit plan to get a divorce.
I saw this coming. I cannot say she is wrong.